Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I have to start off by saying that I’m obsessed with my engagement ring still, and I think it’s an exquisite piece of jewelry. I didn’t get a ring made to match, but my wedding band matches pretty well. I’m a fan of the gap, and I’m not a huge fan of ring sets (at least for my ring – I tried a contour band that fit perfectly and didn’t like it).
However, now I’m wishing I could wear my engagement ring alone. To me, the wedding band makes it feel like a standard wedding set and not like anything special. I often take the rings off and wear them separately and really love how my engagement ring looks alone.
Im not especially sentimental about my wedding band, and I’m considering in the next few years upgrading it so it’s a thicker band I could wear alone and wear my engagement ring as a RHR essentially.
I really just love looking at it without my wedding band, but I would feel weird wearing it alone on my left ring finger because I’m very much married. Or maybe finding another ring that makes it look less of a set and more like two distinct beautiful rings.
I know I’m being ridiculous, but wearing the ring alone makes such a difference for me, and it just makes me so happy to look at.
Does anyone else do something similar? Would love any thoughts for different rings or other ideas. I’m not particularly traditional, but I also want to make it clear that I’m married!
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
Your wedding band on top? It’s usual for it to go on first and ering on top – have you tried that?
i think it’s a lovely set and looks really good but of course just wear your ering if thats what you like. A colleague wears a black ering and no band. It looks great but she does tell me she regularly gets asked when her wedding is as people assume she’s engaged not married. It depends if this will bother you (if you get it at all).
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I would say wear your engagement ring on your left hand and your band on your right hand. I have a lot of friends that do that!
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I find it uncomfy for 2 rings alot of the time. So for a while I wore mine alone and I did my previous ring as well. I do wear a thin 1.5mm twist band now for the most part since I can barely feel it.
I say wear what you want and what makes you happy. I see a ring on the left ring finger I assume taken in some form whether that is the case or not.
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
My engagement ring broke a few months ago. Haven’t had time to replace it with one I liked as much so I just wear my wedding ring.
No one seems to notice.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
So don’t wear a wedding band?
Post # 7
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Honey bee
Before I got married I felt the way you do about the wedding band taking away from my engagement ring. I felt the detail in the band which makes my engagement ring different, got lost with the addition of my wedding band. I thought I’d split them up but in 4 years I never have. It wasn’t so important or as much of an issue in the end. 🙂
I’d just wear your wedding band on your ring finger and flip your engagement ring on to your right hand. You could also have fun and add a few smaller bands to your wedding ring for a lovely stack on your ring finger.
I’d also put your wedding bands closer to your hand and have your engagement ring as the outer ring. Usually that is the way you wear it. It doesn’t matter much if you have a solitaire but with round/oval halos and clusters it tends to look unbalanced. (For me anyway) You may not mind the combination of your engagement ring /wedding band as much this way.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I sometimes wear both my rings, sometimes band alone, sometimes ering alone, sometimes band on left hand and ering on right. I wore my ering alone for most of my pregnancy, because my hand was too swollen to do anything else(my ering is thinner than band). Nobody ever notices except my husband. He likes it when I wear my ering because he spent a lot of money on it and a lot of time picking it out. I say do whatever makes you happy. So many people have nontraditional rings or sets that I feel like anything on the left ring finger says ‘taken.’
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I don’t have a ‘wedding band’, I have one ring that was supposed to be an engagement ring (but cause I have small fingers, it had to be ordered and only arrived a montth before the wedding) that I got to wear for the first time on our wedding day. I love it 🙂
Post # 10
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Helper bee
These days, anything goes so go with what is right for you. Having said that, i felt the same way until we got married. Once he put my wedding ring on my finger i couldnt imagine ever not wanting to wear it, closest to my heart…then my ering…
Your rings are stunning btw
Post # 11
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Helper bee
My Mother-In-Law, my SIL, and I all only wear the Engagement Ring. We didn’t bother with wedding bands. I guess it’s an unintentional family tradition for us, haha.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
jmsk12 : Maybe get a thin “spacer” band to go between your ering and wedding band? Maybe something with a different metal colour or texture, to kind of break up the set and allow both rings to shine without separating them.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
I have a similar oval sapphire ring. I’m still looking at wedding bands so I totally understand. I feel like a lot of bands distract from my engagement ring!
Post # 14
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Busy bee
I often like the simplicity of just wearing my solitaire. No one I know thinks I am any less married 😉
Post # 15
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Helper bee
I’m slowly becoming a member of the one-ring club and honestly it’s great. It’s so much more comfortable, especially with the weather getting warmer now.
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