Post # 1
We’re in 1000 miles long distance situation but during the summer, we’ll be in the same city. We’re super excited about this and I think the proposal will happen sometime over the summer.
I don’t wear make up, style my hair nor wear nice clothes at all unless there’s a special occasion. But I really want to be pretty on the day! I never had manicure but I’m even considering to start.
I feel a little silly about the way I feel – well, I am not a person who cares about my look. But occasionally, when I wear a skirt or style my hair a little, he shows an awe in his face and I love the face. (No awe for a make up though, probably I’m not skilled. :p) I want to give the awe on that day! And truthfully ever since I’ve been dating this guy, I want to look feminine. I haven’t felt this way in my previous relationships.
Does anyone had similar feelings? Is this a type of change that denies my identity?
Post # 3
@Mee: I know how you feel because I am very similar to you. I rarely wear makeup and I usually don’t even blow dry or style my hair in the mornings. But that’s because I’m lazy and can’t be bothered to wake up an extra hour earlier. I love my sleep lol.
I do try to wear cute clothes though but other than that, I’m not very girly. I don’t even do manicures on a regular basis, though that has to do with money. And I suck at painting my own nails.
But despite all this, my Boyfriend or Best Friend still loves me and tells me I’m pretty or beautiful. Though I do love it when I do get dressed up, fix my hair and the look on his face is amazing. He’s always like “Wow!” So then I start thinking I should dress up more often…but I don’t. Simply put, I’m too lazy to do it every day lol.
But I think it’s a good thing when you want to be more feminine for your Boyfriend or Best Friend. I’ve had the same feeling. It doesn’t mean you’re losing your identity. You love him and you care about what he thinks of you. You want him to be attracted to you so of course, you want to be more feminine for him. It’s only natural. I wouldn’t worry about it.
And the great thing is, our BFs love us no matter what we look like! 🙂 And that’s the important thing.
Post # 4
I don’t think wanting to look nice denies your identity in anyway.
For the most part I dress veryyyyyy low-key (I’m lazy) on an everyday basis because we’re long distance.
If I know I’m going to see my boyfriend or friends I definitely step it up a notch or 5.I rarely wear dresses but do when I’m with my boyfriend (one in particular that I’m not crazy about but he’s wilddd for- I look a little tarty in it).
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with dressing nicely. I’m of the opinion that dressing nicely shows that person that I want to take the time to look good for them. It’s a compliment because if I didn’t care I’d rock whatever.
Post # 5
@Mee: how about getting a simple manicure, your hair blowed dried..nothing over the top but just for a more clean look and you can go to any makeup counter and ask for natural makeup…
or at the salon were you get your done bring Natural eyelashes …it will give you bigger eyes and be very natural
Post # 6
You are not weird at all, I felt the same way. So I bought a day time ‘outfit’ for the day I thought we would get engaged and picked my favourite dress to wear that night. He proposed that night 🙂 So I love the dress even more now!
Post # 7
Not weird at all! I told my fiance before he proposed that if he asked me while I was in PJs or half awake or sick or whatever, I’d never forgive him. So he made sure to give me a reason to get dressed up. I loved that dress before, and I really love it now!
Post # 8
My SO has told me that he does appreciate when I put some effort in my everyday dress-up routine! I mean, isn’t it the same for you, when he does it?
And it has nothing to do with your identity, IMO.
Post # 9
Awww I total know how you feel. When Darling Husband proposed I was not wearing anything that nice, just jeans and a comphy shirt. I wish I had worn a cute dress or something else, we didn’t take any photots after because I felt like I looked awful. Also with everyone coming over and wanting to go for cocktails, I wish I woudl have felt my best.
I would go for the manicure. Everyone grabbing your unmanicured hand to see the rings can feel a little embarassing.
Post # 10
Wow! Thank you all!!
Yeah, we’re so blessed that our BFs love us the way we’re but my cheap shirts and pants are not my identity!
And sure I love him the way he ie but when he puts a little effort to look nice to me, that amazes me too! I guess all we’re so blessed that our BFs love us no matter what and we love them in the same way 🙂
I should buy a bottle of manicure first! 😉 Really thank you all, amazing bees! Seriously, you guys are awesome!
Post # 11
I also don’t wear much makeup or dress up, but there were a few special days that I put in some effort because I thought my boyfriend would propose. However, he put so much effort into catching me off guard (grabbed me for a quick walk before I got ready for Thanksgiving dinner), that I hadn’t done anything with my hair, was wearing a dirty shirt, and *had my jeans rolled up* with sneakers when he proposed! And took video of the whole thing! He definitely surprised me, and I definitely didn’t look as good as I thought I would when being proposed to, but it was wonderful.
I was able to get dressed up afterwards and make sure my nails were all filed before we joined his family for dinner and shared our good news.
I know where you’re coming from with wanting to make the effort, but your boyfriend might catch you just being yourself anyway 😉
Post # 12
I think it’s sweet, and your SO will think so too! I think it means a lot to a guy… not that you dressed up or anything, but that you want to look nice FOR HIM. I think it’s good for thier egos 🙂
Post # 13
I probably would have made an effort to wear something memorable if I’d known the proposal was coming. Instead, I was wearing a snuggie. So no matter what you’re wearing, just remember: at least you probably won’t be wearing a snuggie.
I think Liz Lemon would’ve given me the thumbs up, though.
Post # 14
I got engaged today!!! Unfortunately I wasn’t dressed up, nor wearing make up but not too under-dressed 😉
He came to my work (3 mins away from my apt) and he set things up in my apartment.
After saying yes, I changed and wore make up before going out for a nice dinner and he loved it. Yeah and I think he appreciate my effor more than the look!
I’m so happy tonight and he just left 30 mins ago and I alredy miss him so much!
Thanks a lot for the support bees, and lots of blessing for you too!
Post # 15
@Mee: I don’t think it’s a bad thing to want to look extra nice, but it may be hard to make happen if your Boyfriend or Best Friend doesn’t tell you when he’s going to propose. I am a girl who almost always does make the extra effort with cute clothes, full makeup and styled hair. of course, as luck would have it, FH proposed to me while I had my hair up in a messy bun, almost no makeup on and a pair of my jeans and a ratty old tshirt ;P but it was still absolutely perfect, because I know FH loves me every day, all day, even when it’s a lazy day for me.
Post # 16
@Mee: just saw your update, congratulations!