Post # 17
Tell your mom that technically the veil is covering your shoulders
Post # 18
haha! I knoooow. It’s ridiculous really. Arbitrary rules. Like adding a strap of cloth over my shoulder which is mostly covered by my hair anyway would make a flip of a difference… *sigh*
: The big day is 4 weeks away. I don’t have time for any big alterations or ordering of material. At best I could rush something in. I think my best bet is to add a simple strap made by the alterations lady.
yes this is my plan when I break the news to her
Yeah I realize I can just wear it ONLY for the ceremony… BUT… the first time my fiance sees me will be walking down the aisle.. I want to feel my BEST at that point.. not after the ceremony. Maybe I make this walking down the aisle “pivotal moment” too big of a deal in my head.
I don’t have pics of me in the bolero cuz I hated it so much I only had it on for a minute or two. Haha.
That’s a great board!I wish I had seen it sooner! The problem is that my wedding is 4 weeks away! I don’t have time to do anything big!
Post # 19
Thank you everyone for your advice!…
The fact that my wedding is 4 weeks away I think is the biggest problem. If I had more time I’d probably get a custom illusion neckline made for the dress…. but since I don’t have time I think removable straps are my best option. Matching the lace is a pain in the rear too… ugh.
I’m also going to ever so casually drop the idea to my mother at my next fitting that “maybe my hair covering my shoulders is enough” and point out that straps don’t cover much more.
Post # 20
Is this something that’s required by the church or just your mother? If it’s from your mother, I would just ignore her.
Post # 21
yeah it’s not the church, though the church supports & encourages it it’s not required. … It’s *The Mother*. ha.
I think it’d be easier to blow off the church than my mother…
Post # 22
I can’t quite tell what the lace pattern looks like from your photo, but I have done some searching for shoulder coverage for lace dresses as well. I don’t think I’ll need it after all, so hopefully these etsy options will help inspire you with some quick solutions. The first two links are for boleros, and the last two are for lace straps/cap sleeves.
I’m under the assumption that the straps and cap sleeves are simple enough for a seamstress to quickly add on. Hope one of these options helps you find a solution!
Post # 23
classy and beautiful, you aren’t in danger of falling out any place in that dress.
Give me your mother’s email address and I will provide a sound talking to her. I am probably older than she is and she should respect my opinion, haha.
Post # 24
It’s so pretty the way it is, don’t add anything to it! Just refuse to buy anything and on your wedding day, your mom will be just so happy for you she will probably forget!
Post # 25
Honestly, I’d just be like, “Okay, mom, whatever…” and then show up on the day of with your dress as-is.
Post # 26
At first I thought “why the gasp? Lots of churches allow strapless”. Then I saw that it was a family thing.
Fiance and I also are having a wedding for two reasons: because we wanted a religious ceremony, and to please and treat other people. We talked about eloping sooooo much!
Anyway, I wanted to please the in-laws, so I have a ceremony dress with sleeves. There is so much more choice in the shops for people who want cover ups now though! The choice has flooded the market in the last few months. Jealous!
If your wedding is in 4 weeks, I think ebay might be your friend. There are stunning boleros on there. Just stunning. So many different kinds! I love the ones with cap sleeves and mandarin collars.
But if there is really nothing you want… I would either tell your family to stick it, or just turn up in whatever makes you feel beautiful on the day.
Post # 27
I felt immodest wearing my strapless dress at our wedding, but the Pastor made me feel MUCH better about it. He said “I don’t have a problem with it, and I’m head of God’s house here. I speak with the presence of the Holy Spirit, and if the Holy Spirit doesn’t feel it’s immodest, neither should you.”