Post # 1
The biggest thing I was worried about through the planning of our wedding/vow renewal was my size!! I’m not thin, and infact I weigh more now then I ever have!! “How can my pictures look beautiful if I’m the center of attention?” I worried. but you know what…I looked beautiful. My photographer was AMAZING which was half of it, but you know the other half? I had fun, and just acted like myself. I had my husband by my side who loves me unconditionally, and we were surrounded by people who supported us and wanted nothing more for us then happiness, joy, and love. It lifted my husband and I up to our best that day, and we both came out feeling renewed with hope. Funny how a little thing like a vow renewal or wedding can do that.
For all you plus sized brides worrying about what I did, and are in need of pictures of other plus sized brides to feel better about your upcoming nuptuals, then check out the links to my recaps. I hope they will show you that being happy and in love is what makes a beautiful bride. And you know what??? we were even blogged by our photographer!!!! Yes, me! A plus sized bride! And we got over 600 hits to our blog, it broke a record for our photographers website. Our pictures were viewed more then anyone’s ever had been. 😉
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Post # 3
You did look absolutely gorgeous! I serious LOVED your recap!
Post # 4
I haven’t browsed through all of your recaps yet, but I just wanted to say that I’ve always been afraid of getting married. I’m a big girl, and I’m kind of short and I’ve always been made to feel like I won’t be pretty if I’m not thin. But seeing pictures like yours made me realize that I’m going to look pretty darn hot on my wedding day. So I’m really glad you, and other plus sized brides, share your photos. It really helps some of us shy girls:)
Your pictures are lovely and you looked wonderful!
Post # 5
I’ve been feeling down about myself lately, thinking I was going to be an ugly bride with gorgeous bridesmaids but after seeing your pictures and reading your recaps, you’ve given me hope. You were a gorgeous bride and it looks like you had an amazing wedding. Congratulations!
Post # 6
I am a big girl, and I am also having a vow renewal. It will be somewhat like a wedding but mostly a celebration of 15 years of marriage and 7 wonderful children we’ve raised together. Even knowing this, I cringe at the thought of being on display for all to pick me apart. But then I saw your recaps and I am reminded that if I focus on the moment, and purpose I will be beautiful. Thank you for sharing your special day with us.
Post # 7
I’ve been afraid of the same thing, I always assumed I would feel large and ugly on my wedding day….but you eased those fears. You looked fantastic!! The recaps were awesome, your vow renewal was gorgeous!!
Post # 8
SouthernGirl You ARE gonna be pretty darn hot on your wedding day!! You know what? My dress was too small, and I had to get a corset put it so it would fit properly, and even then it still didn’t…but i still looked and felt great! It even rained a little when my husband and I were taking the pictures downtown and my hair started to fall flat, but it STILL worked out ok. All the things about my appearence i worried about don’t really show in the pictures, just the love and happiness. The same will be for you. 🙂
CaitMarae Boy did I say the same thing to myself many a nights! One of my BM’s is a size 4…”how can I stand out and be beautiful next to her?” I worried. But in the pictures they are centered around the couple. And to be honest, what Bridesmaid or Best Man even a beautiful one, can compete with a beatuiful bride in a white gown who has love in her eyes and a loving man on her arm???? No one. You’ll be beautiful!!!
shedayz 15 years of marriage and 7 children, wow that is an amazing accomplishment! congratulations!! you vow renewal is going to be so amazing!! I can’t wait to see pics from it! I worried about people picking mine (and me for that matter) apart too, because honestly that’s what I was doing. But then on the day of, there was so much going on and when I saw myself with the WHOLE look finally put together it was the last thing on my mind. I didn’t think about how fat I am, which is funny because sometimes I think that’s all I think about. The day of is so exciting and it just flys by, and you find yourself just trying to soak in the moments so they can be burned into your memory forever!! The same will be true for you. You will all be surrounded by love and joy on your day and you will be beautiful.
bananarama Thank you! I thought the same thing as you and many times wishes I would have just canceled the vow renewal all because of how I looked. Sounds silly now, but at those moments when I got down on myself the hardest (usually after seeing ANOTHER recap of a beautiful and thin bride, or watching another dress show with a girl who’s biggest body woes regarding her dress is that she’s too small for all the samples!) canceling seemed like the perfect idea. But my deposits were non-refundable and we’de already sent out the save the dates. 🙂 I went into our wedding day with the idea firmly planted in my head that i was NOT going to worry about the little details didn’t go “just right”, and that i was going to let go of all the worries I’de had leading up to this day. The last thing i wanted for myself was to ruin it by only thinking of the non-perfect things, or things I couldn’t change (like my appereance or people who didn’t show at the last minute). Like I said before, it was so busy that I didn’t have time to worry!! I had everything planned like a well oiled machine, but it was still busy and non-stop, but only in a good way. The same will be true for you. You will be beautiful, you will feel surrounded by love, some things won’t go just right or will happen that you thought could be the worst on the planet! But in the end it will all be alright, and your pictures will be amazing!!
I can’t wait to see all of you beautiful and amazing ladies’ recaps!!
Post # 9
you ARE beautiful! i wish there wasn’t this “stigma” that follows those who are plus-sized. society is so concerned with numbers. i have struggled with my eating disorder since i was 11 and all of my life i have always been so preoccuiped with 1 number. i measure(d) my worth with that. in this country if it’s not one way it’s another. people need to be seen for WHO they are, not HOW MUCH of them there is. to me, being beautiful on the inside is the ONLY thing that should matter. time maraches on, beauty and body image give way to gravity and aging…and what are you left with? – a lot of really UGLY people!! hah!
i think your wedding is one of the most beautiful ones i have seen on here and YOU are definitely one of the most beautiful brides! your confidence shines through in every picture…and that is the way it should be. congrats on your wedding, your new happy life and being a beautiful person INSIDE AND OUT!!!
Post # 10
ijustrockout Thank you so much, that is so kind! I too have been preoccupied with one number…my weight. We all struggle with someone I suppose and for me it’s been my size. But I lead a happy life and find many role models who inspire me to be the best I can be, and forgive myself for not being “perfect”, and infact embrace that fact. Oprah has been a wonderful sort of mentor for me on so many levels, and weight issues being one of them. anwyay, thanks for the kudos and also thanks for sharing a little of your story.
“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”
~Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
Post # 11
@NYshoppingirl: oooh lady I felt the same way! high five!