(Closed) I was asked to give his grandmother's ring back

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 121
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ham1320:  Let’s agree to disagree on this one 

Post # 123
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

MissesAwesome:  You stated that she didn’t reject the ring.  I showed you her statement telling Fiance she dreamed about shopping for a ring and asking her Fiance if they could go shopping for a ring.  By asking to shop for a different ring, she is obviously rejecting the engagement ring she received in favor of another ring. 

Not sure what point I missed or how I am reading into things? 

 

Post # 124
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Bumble bee

doberman:  OK 🙂 

SunnierDaysAhead:  Glad you were able to talk with your FI’s grandmother. I know how sensitive a subject heirloom rings can be (I have two from my husband). That’s so unfortunate about his aunt; I have an aunt like that and she’s just awful. Good luck and I really do hope this all blows over so you both can concentrate on your future together and celebrate your engagment. 

Post # 125
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

SunnierDaysAhead:  So, when do you get to go ring shopping?  Do you have any ideas of what kind of ring you’d like?  You’ll have to post photos of the new ring!

Post # 126
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

SunnierDaysAhead:  His grandma sounds just lovely! I’d only be worried about what she thinks, so I think/hope things will be ok now. Good luck ring shopping! You’ll have to post pics when you settle on one. 

Post # 127
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

wntrwhte:  I completely agree!! I have my fiances deceased mother’s engagement ring and several other jewelry pieces. We used the diamonds to make my engagement ring. He also has 2 sisters and his stepdad said that he got first choice, not the girls. 

Post # 130
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Busy bee

It’s so beautiful! I am so happy you were able to communicate and work it out. Congratulations!

Post # 131
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Busy bee

 

I would give it back, you dont want the negative feelings following you for the rest of your life. They will hold it against you. If you aren’t in love with the ring then part with it.

 

Just saw your new ring. Its gorgeous!!

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by  Zenia.
Post # 132
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Your asscher is gorgeous! I read through this mad as hell. They were extremely greedy and only concerned that they weren’t getting something. Not one thought was given to the fact that, “Hey, we might be ruining this girl’s engagement…” They only thought about themselves.

Post # 133
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Helper bee

1inthechamber:  I agree with you there. They should be happy they are in love and getting married, and want to support them in any way they are able, not throw fits and make it about themselves. That’s horrible and makes me sad that people can be so selfish. I love her ring btw. I love the uniqueness of asscher cut diamonds 🙂

Post # 134
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Sugar bee

SunnierDaysAhead:  I kind of don’t blame them for wanting it back. Honestly though, the grandmother technically gave it to HIM to give to you so it is still in the family. But I can see how his mom and sister would want you to give it back if you aren’t going to use it and will get a new one anyway.

I don’t think it’s anything personal against you, but I can see how it might be more sentimental to them. It’s not that they’d rather have it than for you to have it, but they’d rather have it than for anyone who doesn’t like it or won’t wear it to have it. Does that make sense?

 

ETA: Sorry! I didn’t see this thread was so old and I’ve read your update. Congrats!

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by  MrsKriegerson.

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