(Closed) I was at a freaking FUNERAL…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I feel you on this. Not that I’ve been to a funeral lately, but it’s like no one gives two craps about your wedding, they just want you to reproduce. It’s frustrating, and it’s privacy-invading. If we want to make an announcement of our baby timetable, we will do so. GRR!!

Post # 4
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1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

“So nice of you to take an interest!” (then change subject completely) Eee Gads! What’s the matter with them!

Post # 5
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I totally know how you feel….minus the funeral. My husband and I are legally married as of 3 months ago. and whenever i am at church i am BOMBARDED by baby questions. For heavens sake if i so much as play or hold someone else’s baby they say “practicing for the real deal aye?” NO IM JUST PLAYING WITH A BABY GOD!

Plus Im very surprised. one weve been married only 3 months, and 2 im 20 years old! Why would you want me to get married and just pop out babies? My husband and I want to enjoy our alone time ANNNND I want to be selfish and get my sleep. I love to sleep…dont want to give that up yet haha

Post # 6
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1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I tell myself, every time I get a question like this, that they’re just trying to make conversation. But it really is none of their business, and they’ve clearly never had a loved one who struggled with infertility. I think my new strategy will be blunt oversharing. If they’re going to ask a nosy question, I’ll give them a brutally honest reply: “We’re not. The moment my current IUD needs to be removed, he’s getting a vasectomy!” Said with a smile, just before I walk away.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would NEVER walk up to a family member I just met and say “Hi, Betty, so nice to meet you, when are you going to get that hemorrhoid problem cleared up?”

 

hahahahaha. i had to tell you – i lol’d. 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow, that’s a bit much!  Most people don’t say anything to us about having kids, and our immediate family says “wait!” (because we’re young and hubby’s still in school, with plenty of loan debt)

Post # 9
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368 posts
Helper bee

ugh, that is CRAZY! I’ve dodged a few questions, but NONE at a funeral!

Post # 11
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202 posts
Helper bee

Maybe there were trying to cover up their sadness of losing a family member with hopes of gaining one.  They obviously love you and are excited to have a tot running around again at the holidays. Family will be family and some close knit ones think its a fair question. I know we perceive it as rude but we were raised to be independent women who have careers and pay off loans before they start baby making, many of his family members might have been raised to make babies and they’re curious on why you’re lagging. Just laugh it off and offer a creative solution like your loans.

Post # 13
Bee
13046 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Dang, that is so inconsiderate on so many levels.  Yikes. 

Post # 14
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468 posts
Helper bee

The whole asking about kids really irks me. Alot. As some one who is likely to have a very difficult, if not impossible likelihood that I’ll be able to concieve and carry, asking me about kids, jsut ices my cupcakes.

People often forget that some people CAN NOT have babies. Not because they don’t want to, but physically can not. And brining it up often makes them feel worse. Argh.  I actually had a guy I went out with tell me I was a cold hearted B&^*H because I ‘didn’t want kids’. Needles too say when I busted out the I most likely can’t he felt like a real tool. 

Anyways sorry to hijack the thread, just one of my biggest pet peeves. 

Post # 15
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366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Woof.  I’m sorry…that’s pretty lame on their part.  Show a little respect, people!

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