(Closed) I was doing good….UNTIL………

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
Member
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You said we and our as far as plans for what day you wanted, your Boyfriend or Best Friend should know that so saying something won’t change anything. I wouldn’t say anything. A good friend is getting married the weekend before me. I was engaged first and had my date first but who cares. Weddings happen all the time, people can either come or they can’t come. Don’t let it bother you, you can still do what you’ve been pre-planning or you may even change your mind. you never know.

Post # 5
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t say anything either.  If you are trying to give you Boyfriend or Best Friend a clear head before proposing, you should probably not bring up the wedding until he is ready.  If you really want these people to be at your wedding, you might want to consider changing your date once you become engaged.  I know it’s tough but stay strong!

Post # 6
Member
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Honestly, I would freaking out on the inside, but there isn’t really anything you could do about it. Sorry you have to feel this way.

Hopefully, nothing was booked.

Post # 7
Member
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I think I’m confused… I don’t really understand why this makes you so upset.  I get the frustration from not being “officially engaged” so you can’t say anything, but I don’t get why getting married the weekend after is so bothersome?  Is it because you really want your friends to be able to attend your wedding?  Your friends will clearly know how much effort goes in to planning a wedding, and how dates are often determined by uncontrollable things such as venue availability, so I really don’t think they will be mad at you for having your wedding the weekend after theirs.  Then again, this is just MY opinion.

Post # 8
Member
20 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Whatever you do, don’t badger your boyfriend.  You don’t want to be the girl who wonders “Did I badger him into proposing?”


Although you may have done some preplanning, you haven’t booked anything or told anyone anything about your preplanning, besides your boyfriend.  And trust me, he now knows.  I totally agree with Miss AsB, you may just change your mind.  Within the first few weeks of our engagement, I changed the date 3 times.

Post # 9
Member
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

To answer your questions…no I wouldn’t feel the same way, and no I wouldn’t talk to him about it. He can’t change their date. And if I was someone’s bf I wouldn’t want them pestering me to propose. I don’t mean that it a mean way. Don’t worry, people won’t think you copied them or anything. GL 🙂

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