(Closed) I was dumped as bridesmaid

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

She may have dumped you as a bridesmaid but after all this is over I would dump her as a friend.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

loulou29:  Since she’s a “friend” and she’s treating you this poorly, you should save yourself time and energy by not going  It doesn’t sound like she would even want to maintain the friendship after her wedding.  You may as well cut your losses now.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You two need to hash this out. Find a time you can skype without interuptions, calmly tell your side and be open to hers. It would be such a shame to lose a close friend this way. Not showing up to the wedding would be deal breaker. She probably has gone a little crazy, and there is no excuse. If she cannot meet your halfway and talk then her friendship is no longer worth the effort and you should tell her. Not saying anything and not showing up is passive aggressive. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

don’t go. But i think if you don’t go then the friendship is over. i would do this…write her a letter or an email- tell her EXACTLY how u feel- she has hurt you? she was making HUGE demands of you- 4 flights? then not even seeing u? did i get that right? she is being a huge diva and has acted appallingly. how dare she? u have dropped EVERYTHING for her and this is how she repays u? nice!<br />i had a similar experience with a friend of mine and to  be honest i cant really get over the way she treated me… x

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

Did I read 4 FLIGHTS for a freaking dress and then she still changed her mind. oh HELL no, she’s done lost her mind. Good riddance I say.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Then you have your answer.

Post # 13
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437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

loulou29:  We ended up having a huge row and i told her how much she hurt me, it’s still like the elephant in the room even now, i did end up going and doing a reading but i’m still not really over it but it was different circumstances. i can DM you the whole story! DOnt want to get in to it on here! x

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

loulou29:  She is being completely unreasonable. What a horrible reason to kick you out of her bridal party – what a total bridezilla. Honestly, whether you go or not is up to you (I think I would take the high road and attend as a guest), but I would seriously reconsider this friendship. She doesn’t sound considerate at all.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

loulou29:  I’m confused about a lot of details in your post, including why on earth you would have to fly anywhere 4 times for a dress (that’s insane), and what’s going on with the bachelorette – are you invited to that?  Were you invited to the rehearsal dinner when you were a bridesmaid?  Have you been uninvited now?

It sounds like this “friend” has a habit of walking all over you – treating you like a doormat.  I wouldn’t go to the wedding after being kicked out of the wedding party so coldly.  Up to you…but I think you need to ask yourself whether you are enabling her to treat you this way.    

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