(Closed) I Was Gorgeous, My Fiance Was Fat- Now the Table is Turned

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 91
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Southern Inn

You really might want to look at some readings that follow the philosphy of Health at Every Size and stop focusing so much on your looks.  Clothing sizes come and go, but if you love each other, that’s forever.  I follow some great blogs and pages on Facebook like the Moderation Movement that helped me begin to undo the damage that the dieting industry has done on our society.  I truly believe that you can be beautiful and feel beautiful at any size. It’s all about your mentality and how you approach life. I would hope that you each love each other no matter what size your pants are. Your post makes it seem like double digit pants size are something bad, but maybe you might focus on how your body FEELS versus what size pants it needs. 

My advice? Find some things you like to do together that are active and make your bodies FEEL good instead of worrying that they’ll make your body LOOK good. Enjoy your time together and remember that you’re time together, on this planet, is not unlimited. 

Post # 92
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

 

swedish2miami:  maybe try hiking? Going to the gym us a struggle but going through the woods with your fi could feel romantic and not like a chore 🙂

Post # 93
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

swedish2miami:  honestly, I really think you need some therapy ASAP.  Every single comment you make mentions how people are staring at you (i.e. last commment’s female runners at the park).  Not everyone is staring at you and/or your fiancé!!!! Even if you were as gorgeous as you claim and he is a Greek God, not everyone is looking at you (except, perhaps in passing as they do with EVERYONE else).  

I used to work with very famous celebrities and most people would just walk by them without even noticing who they were.  Why do you think that everyone notices you?  Sheesh!!!!  And yes, if you’re under 30, almost all women get catcalls.  Likewise, we have all had random strangers telling our boyfriends they lucked out.  It’s just something that immature men at bars do.

You need to talk to a professional about your misperceptions of reality.  

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