(Closed) I was nosy and it has come back to bite me…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh wow, I’m sorry. Well, all you can do is be yourself and if he shows dislike in you, then you can address him. But as of now, anyway you put this, its going to look bad and awkward on your part. Especially because you snooped in your SIL’s phone. I say you’re going to have to let this go. 

Post # 4
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Yikes. I don’t envy your tough situation. I see your dilemma too. If I were you, I would just do my best to forget it happened.

Post # 5
8469 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Damn, I’m so sorry to hear that. What a jerk. Put a bug in his dinner at your next get together. 

Post # 6
833 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ouch! You won’t be comfortable at family gatherings for awhile, will you? You shouldn’t have snooped, but at least you know not to get too comfortable around him. He’s a jerk!

Post # 7
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@pinwheelbride:  It’s sad that he thinks of you that way, but you totally deserve to be uncomfortable from SPYING ON YOUR SIL!


Shame on you! SHAM SHAME SHAME! What drove you to do something so horrible? And a message between her and her SO? Just what exactly were you looking for?


I can’t feel sorry for what you found at all. 🙁

Post # 8
722 posts
Busy bee

1. as anonymity (whether in internet or anywhere else) gives people freedom, they can say whatever they want, it is a given.

2.even so, he is rude to mention you as his future stepmother that way. If you want to confront the matter, wait until he falls in another occassion (eg: he accidentally mentions something similar while you are around). Never bring up the content of the phone.

3. are you comfortable with your own body image? If so, then however he mentioned you, it should not be a problem. If yes, then maybe you want to work on that.

4. snooping is never good.

5. even worse, confronting the person about the snooping content. You could, however, asking in a different way (what do you think about my dress, etc).

Post # 10
1085 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry it hurt you. That’s harsh.


But of course snooping is wrong, he said that in the confidence of his spouse, he never tried to hurt you or he would have said it to you. Why did you snoop in her phone through her texts anyways? If I were her and I found out I’d be pretty upset.

Post # 14
19 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

@pinwheelbride:  Why do you feel this has taught you a lesson?  IMO, this has vindicated your decision to snoop.  You now know that a certain person views you in a VERY different way than you did before.  The purpose of snooping is to gain secret information.  You were successful.

Post # 16
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@lleello:  SIL = sister in law. The OP’s fiancé has a sister. That sister is engaged to a man who said those things. There’s no stepchild. 

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