Post # 1
I find something pretty gross, and I know SO MANY people wind up doing it…
One of my FB friends “shared” a picture today, from a professional photog. The picture was of a new mom nursing a baby. Full action in the picture. I know most of you will disagree, and most people feel nursing your baby is natural and beautiful and all that…I’m fully aware of how important it is for a baby to have it’s mother’s milk to build antibodies, it’s proven to increase IQ points, etc..I know. What I find so gross, is the act of breast feeding. I think it’s so primitive, and think the only lips going in that region are those of my SO! I am far from being a mom, but feel that I’d eventually pump my milk, rather than ever have a baby’s lips there. The idea makes me shudder. I genuinely don’t mean to offend anyone, I know my POV is rare-I only have 1 friend who feels the same as me. Is anyone else bugged out by this?
Post # 3
I don’t think anyone can say that for sure until they have grown and labored a baby themselves 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t like watching others do this and did not want people watching me when I did. I breast fed both my boys pumping is inconvient and your boobs get sore when they are to full of milk so you would be pumping frequently. You burn more calories breastfeeding it also contracts your uterus so it goes back to normal quicker.
Post # 5
@Eva Peron: I don’t think anyone can say that for sure until they have grown and labored a baby themselves 🙂
Post # 6
Breast feeding isn’t for some people and if you choose not to do it when the time comes, stand your ground, and don’t let people make you feel guilty.
I on the other hand am from the other side. I am very pro breast feeding.
Post # 7
@caffeiney: I was wondering if maybe I feel this way since I’m not in the situation yet, maybe I’ll find out in a few years 😉
Post # 8
I agree that I don’t necessarily like to see pictures of that, although very professional pictures can really show the bond between mother and child while breastfeeding. However, I know this is a controversial topic (breastfeeding in public that is), so I think that out of respect of that, perhaps your friend should have refrained from putting it in a position everyone will see by sharing it.
That all being said, I think that it is impossible to say for certain what you would do as a mother until you have been there. I, myself, in the last few years have gone from “I WILL NEVER DO IT!” to “I can’t wait to have that bond with my child by breastfeeding” so who knows what will happen when the time comes 😉
Post # 9
before being pregnant I thought the same but during I decided thatsvwhats best. Believe me I saved a lot of money
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Post # 11
Don’t worry, I feel the same way. I didn’t breast feed and couldn’t even think about even doing it. I just don’t think that breast feeding is for everyone.
Post # 12
i dont have any issues with bf’ing or the fact that the breasts are there to nuture a child but i also dont want to see it online or in real time because i view it as a private thing between mom and child. BUT, i will say 99.9% of bf’ing mums i have ever seen are discrete about it – its not a show and tell for them
i also hate naked maternity tummy pics – i know you are pregnant and yes it is beautiful but i dont find your unclothed body beautiful so put it away and keep it private
Post # 13
I feel like you have it backwards. It’s SUPPOSED to be the baby’s mouth that goes there, not your SOs. That’s the whole point of having mammary glands in the first place, lol.
It doesn’t bother me, I’m one of those “hippies” who just views it as a natural thing. That said, it’s not “beautiful” to me, either. I’m pretty apathetic towards people doing it, honestly. I mean, when I finally have a child, yes, I’ll be breastfeeding because of all the good stuff in breast milk (not to mention how much I’ll save in formula!), but ultimately it’s the mother’s choice and whether she does it publicly, privately, or not at all never really phases me because seeing breasts doesn’t bug me and I definitely don’t equate breasts to sex or anything of that nature, lol.
Post # 14
@Eva Peron: well said.
I think it’s weird so many women consider it ok for a man to “play” with their breats while not wanting to breastfeed. If you don’t like it and don’t want to do it it’s ok but don’t consider it antinatural or primitive, that’s what breasts are for!
Post # 15
@WhatMaeBee: I appreciate that you said you don’t mean to offend anyone, because I feel like for many women, breastfeeding is something that is a very personal choice and is intrinsic to their experience of mothering, so your view could be quite offensive to some.
What I want to point out is that humans are animals. This is important to remember in this case for two reasons. First, because if you saw a picture of another mammal nursing, you would not be grossed out by it I’m sure, because this is part of nature. Essentially, there is no other option for non-human mammals. Second, because the over-sexualization of women’s breasts to the point of other women finding breastfeeding gross is ridiculous. What if a man were able to produce milk to feed his offspring? How would we feel about his breasts?
We don’t have to find another woman breastfeeding beautiful, but that is not to say it is cringe-worthy. No woman breastfeeds as a way of showing herself off to anyone or offending anyone – she’s doing it for the purposes of providing her baby with nourishment while bonding with them at the same time. What’s gross about that?