(Closed) I Was Shocked….

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Im kind of confused on why she thinks you should buy stuff for a child that is in no way your respnonsibility. And I dont think you need to be married to have a kid and or raise a kid.

How do you keep running into all your ex’s? Does your hometown only have 50 people in it?

Post # 4
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53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m also a bit confused.  You’re a newlywed….why are you so involved with your ex’s drama?  You should be focused on your happy new marriage, not spending time with your ex’s mother and talking about the unfortunate situation he’s in.

Post # 8
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Your ex’s mother sounds a bit whacko.  Why on earth would she expect you to buy things for this child?  Sounds like you should cut off contact with ex and ex’s mother.

Aside from that, I know how weird it feels.  I dated a guy from 15-19 or so… I’m now 27.  Since we broke up, he has been married and divorced and has two kids by two different women.

Post # 10
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1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@go4me77: if you dont want opinions, why do you post things like this? you are judging their family and people who have kids out of wedlock (and all sorts of other people in your other posts), but you get mad when people give their opinions on YOUR behavior/posts.

“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path”–one of my favorite quotes.

Post # 11
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Too much drama for me here. I’m sorry, but some of these things are just plain ridiculous. All of us in this world have drama at one point or another, but this is just too much. All of your posts are filled with so much drama. Just don’t talk to these people. They aren’t family or anything. I personally feel like you like drama and thrive on it. Who cares about a past ex and his mother? Just stay away from them!!

And I don’t like that you attacked women who have had children before marriage. There are women on Wedding Bee and around the world who have had children out of wedlock and for you to personally attack them? Not ok…

 

Post # 12
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@go4me77: wow! I can speak for myself only. I don’t think anyone wants you to up and leave. I don’t comment too much on your posts but I do read them. You have to look at from the readers perspective. Your last post had some interesting things going on. This one is just weird considering the last one. However, there are some people on here who should just not say anything at all if they can’t say it in a respectable manner. It still may not be what you want to hear or read in this case, but there is a way to say everything.

Yes I wonder too why you are spending time with the ex’s mother. I had a ex from high school. We dated for 4 years. I truly loved him with everything I had but like most high school sweethearts, we broke up. His mother treated me like her own daughter. As she had no girls and I had no mother at the time. BUT, after I started a new serious relationship and later got married to someone else, I sent Christmas cards to his mother. I spent no time with her but I still felt connected to her after all that she did for me when she didn’t have to.

But I agree, you should not have to help them out even if you were close like I was to my ex’s mom.

Post # 13
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@blondeeebuckeye: Do you know who’s quote that is. I love it. Can I put it on my facebook?

Post # 14
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2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

“she wants them to marry and raise the child. I consider that to be one smart move for them”

Getting married because you have a child together is not a good idea. My parents, 16 and 17, were forced to get married because my mom was pregnant with me. They divorced less than 2 years later. I know of at least 3 other divorces because someone got pregnant.

 

“HE got this woman prego! (out of wedlock, I might add)”

I had my child out of wedlock, who was planned and wanted more than any baby in the whole world. When people say things like this, it really hurts my feelings because they think my baby was an accident, which is not true.

Post # 15
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1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

 @edisonsgirl: thanks! i love quotes πŸ™‚ that one is from Paulo Coelho, who is a Brazilian novelist. i had it on my facebook for the longest time! @edisonsgirl–of course you can use it, i’m not that brilliant to come up with something so good πŸ™‚

 

Post # 16
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829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think you should just focus on your marriage and try not to think about the ex’s. They do tend to shock you but really focus on your husband now. He deserves all of your attention.

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