- Birdie Love
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I’m sorry for the length, I think I just need to vent…..
I have learned that you can still be a professional, mature person and still feel like you experienced a Mean Girls-snub.
On Friday, a couple of friends (whom I also work with) decided to go with our SOs to a holiday boutique. Turns out another friend was coming along, but for some reason she never mentioned it to me. Everyone seemed excited to spend time together.
Fast forward Saturday, one of the gals invites us to come over to her place for snacks before the boutique. It was a really sweet offer, but logistically for us, it didn’t make sense to drive 20 miles to her place, then back track to the boutique and then back home. Via text I said we would meet them downtown. She agreed and said she would text me when they were headed to the boutique.
FH and I were getting hungry so we decided to go to a restaurant near the boutique. I still haven’t heard anything else from my friend, but kind of take that as a good sign so we can finish our dinner. Eventually I get a text stating “It was too crowded…we’re having a drink at Restaurant X.”
Ummmmmm….okaaaaaay…so you went to the boutique already and didn’t tell us? And now you’re going for a drink and technically didn’t invite us? Thaaaaaankssss…..
At that point I was ready to just go home. FH kept pushing me stating that he was somewhat irked they never contacted us, he wanted to stay out a bit longer and be social. I really didn’t want to meet up with them because I just had feeling we technically weren’t invited to join them at the restaurant.
We head over to the restaurant and walk in and they are seated for a full on meal; obviously not just “drinks”. The person who I am the closest with out of the group looked shocked and uncomfortable that I was there (thanks pal!). We just said “oh….you said that you would text when headed downtown, we didn’t hear from you so we grabbed dinner…blah, blah, blah…”
No one even offered to shift over or grab an extra seat at the table. One gal said “Oh, there are two spots at the bar!” and only one said a half-hearted “sorry” for forgetting to text.
I can’t believe at my age I can still feel embarassed/humiliated/alienated by stuff like this! For some reason I am having trouble shaking how I feel. I am also curious if anything will be mentioned of this on Monday which I would probably repsond with “I thought we had made plans to hang out!” FH thinks it was an honest mistake that they forgot to text me, but we had made plans to go out and doesn’t that say something if they just “forgot” to contact the people that were supposed to join them?!?!
Anyone else still experience stuff like this as an adult?
Thanks for listening/reading, bees!