Post # 1
Baby Sailor is here and is three strong weeks old! I ended up with a c-section and it took a week for my milk to come in. In the meanwhile, he took to Enfamil Gentlese in a bottle.
My milk did come in a week later. Of course, he took a few sucks to the nipple and stopped. The bottle is easier.
Now, I’m seeing how easier it is to make a formula bottle vs finding time to pump, sitting for 45 mins to get the milk, and holding these G-cup boobs in the best position to not smother him LOL.
I think I just want to bottlefeed, but when I was pregnant I was so militant about nursing!!
Post # 3
Take that as a lesson on how the rest of parenting will go!
In my experience, everyone who has all these ideas of things they will NEVER do or things they HAVE to do maybe follows through on about half. It’s so different when you are actually experiencing it. Don’t feel bad about it!
Post # 4
I loved breastfeeding! But hey everyone is different! Whatever works best for you and baby is all that matters! Isn’t being a mom wonderful?!
Post # 5
@LuvMySailor: There’s a lot of judgement out there about BFing. I don’t want to make you feel any way but happy about whatever you choose to do, but I do want to say that breastfeeding gets so. much. easier. And my little guy took a bottle really early on and then went back to the breast, so you will be able to do it (if you choose to). I actually find it way more convenient now. I don’t have to deal with bottles and cleaning and whatever (and of course it is way cheaper). I definitely went through a time I wasn’t sure I wanted to keep going (my nipples were in so much pain, and little guy would eat for 5 hours straight every night–it was killer!), but now it’s super easy, he eats for 5-10 minutes, and I enjoy it.
Whatever you choose to do, feel good about it. You are making the best choice for you and your family in your situation. Don’t let others get judge-y (well, you can’t prevent that, I suppose, but let it roll of your back).
However, if you choose to continue breastfeeding, please reach out for support in whatever way you feel most comfortable. It’s made a big difference for me.
Post # 7
Do what is best for you and your family. If formula is what works best for you then thats fine. Pretty much all my friends do formula and it works great for them.
Breastfeeding for me was a bit awkward at first. I too had a c-section. I noticed that it did help me recover faster and drop the weight. It is a lot easier then the bottle in my opinion to just whip those puppies out (sorry for the mental image). It is also cheaper. I saw the prices of formula, omfg! I have much smaller breasts then you so finding a position was a challenge for me as well, eventually I just took to the side lying position. It was easier on my incision and I can just lay with her in the bed until she fell asleep and transfer her to the crib.
If you decide to keep trying to Boyfriend or Best Friend, look for support from other mom’s that Boyfriend or Best Friend or see a lactation consultant.
Post # 8
Agree with everyone else, you have to do what works best for you. I did want to add that both my besties had difficultly breast feeding their LOs in the beginning and also said it gets way, way easier. In the beginning they said you have to be more stubborn than the baby and really fight to make it work. One had a particular amount of trouble with her latch, had to use a shield for awhile etc but she tried over and over and over until her baby got it, realized a bottle wasn’t coming, and they went on to have a great breastfeeding relationship.
If you really want to make it work you have to fight through it, be more stubborn than the trouble and keep on trying till you both get the hang of it. If you decide your energy and time would be better spent on something else, you’ve already done your LO a great service by giving it a shot and that’s what bottles and formula are for 🙂
Post # 9
Happy moms have happy babies. Do whatever suits you.
Post # 10
I feel like that happens a LOT! One of my great friends always said “formula is tantamount to child abuse”
Then she had a baby.
Then she shut up real quick!
Post # 11
My older sister was gunghoe about breastfeeding. Like, scary, judgy gunghoe… Until her daughter (who has an incredibly sensitive gag reflex) couldn’t latch on without choking, and sister ended up with nipples that were cracked and bleeding…
Now she thinks that breastfeeding is a choice.
Post # 13
I just learned about the dangers of formula feeding in health class, from what I heard it causes a ton of health problems that can affect the rest of their whole lives. I would recommend reading up and researching before making a decision for sure
Post # 14
Do what you feel is right for you and your baby. If you want to breastfeed great! If you want to use formula great! I’m pregnant now and the plan is to breastfeed. But if I can’t I know that it doesn’t mean I don’t care about my baby any less. Or if I breast feed and have to suppliment with formula cuz I don’t make enough milk that doesn’t make me any less of a mother.
I’ve had friends that breast fed for the first month or so and then stopped. Their baby is fine. I have a friend who pumped her breast milk and gave it to her baby through a bottle because it hurt her nipples too much. Her baby is fine. I have a friend that gave her baby formula the whole time and her baby is fine.
People get so judgemental about breastfeeding and honestly it’s a personal choice that a woman makes. The only thing that really matters is that the baby is eating! I think it’s also interesting that the people with the most opinions about it are those who haven’t had a baby. It’s easy to say what you would do until it’s happening to you.
Good luck with whatever choice you make and congrats on your new baby! And congrats for being brave enough to discuss how you feel about breastfeeding cuz folks can be ruthless!!!!
Post # 15
@Cady: great advice!
OP, do what makes you and your baby happiest but if you want to stick with it there are a ton of resources. The first time around, I called the La Leche League 800 number like every day with questions, haha. I nursed Dirty Delete1 for 13 months and will nurse Dirty Delete2 as long as she wants (DD1 started losing interest in nursing so we stopped).
I’m grateful that nursing has been so easy for me with both babies and I will always encourage a mom to stick with it, but it doesn’t always work out for everyone. you’re a good mom either way 🙂
Post # 16
i can totally relate 🙂 i was the same way while i was pregnant. my lo is 8 weeks and we are still exclusively breastfeeding but it is hard work!! i also had to use formula at first because my milk took a week to come in… that was one of the worst decisions i made (granted i was just listening to the nurses and doctors) – it made bf’ing so much harder!
you’re not alone!!! regardless of whether you feed your baby formula or breastmilk, they are getting nutrition and growing big and strong 🙂