(Closed) I was so horrible to SO this weekend :(

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I sure did!!!!  Same think found a great ring on sale, and he wasn’t even there I was looking at charms and it caught me eye.  I started blowing up his phone, it was awful ๐Ÿ™  but we got over it and are now happily engaged and even joke about me going bat shit crazy for the day over a stupid ring ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Omg.  I can tell you feel horrible.

I would be showing lots of love to this man to get past this! You just got caught up in the moment! You’re so excited! 

Surely he can understand.

Sweet girl, shower him with love.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Would you marry him without a ring, even a non-sparkly one? My guess is yes. If the opportunity arises, look him in the eye and tell him so. Although, yes, not bringing it up at all sounds like a good plan, too. I don’t think you were that horrible, after all, it all comes back to you being excited and eager to marry HIM, right! Good luck on Wed!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sparkle envy is the worst! And I know its super hard when you see a bargain. Oh, goodness. I am a total Saver/penny pincher/bargan hunter and nothing gets me going more then a DEAL! I totally get where you were coming from.

Shower with love and take it one week at at time

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I feel for you! I’m a total bargain-hunter, too, so I know what must have come over you! Please don’t be so hard on yourself, though. Everyone makes mistakes and gets carried away sometimes. And in some respects – if he’s already bought you a ring, why on earth is he taking you ring-shopping and letting you look at e-rings?? It seems like a recipe for disaster, since chances are that you’ll like the look of rings that AREN”T the one he picked out already. They might even be totally different in style! And surely that would make him feel bad? It just seems strange that he’d bring you shopping AFTER making a purchase, when it can only do harm, instead of bringing you shopping BEFORE he’s made a purchase, when it could do some good by showing him your style!

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

You are not alone… after 5 long years of waiting, I actually went with my husband to pick out (and purchase) my engagement ring. He didn’t propose for 2 months after procuring the ring. I was so pissed and frustrated, that we got into a huge fight because “it was all about the ring,” that he went upstairs, got my ring, threw it on top of the refrigerator and said, “You want the ring? There it is.” And he stormed out of the room. Of course I’m crying and feeling terrible… I had a really hard time expressing that everytime I whined about “the ring,” I was really yearning for the proposal and our marriage… the ring is just a symbol of that, and I wanted the whole package.

Obviously, we got through it, and he did propose soon thereafter, and we are happily married. So… things could be worse ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Oh, we were at the mall this weekend and I was awful and in tears almost when we’d pass a jewelry store.  I understand about being dense at connecting dots – I keep getting these little hints here and there he’s already bought something (he said something this weekend that alluded to it – such as “what if you see something else in the store and keep changing your mind??”) and me wanting to go into these stores isn’t helping us, lol. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@RoseTylerWannabee:  I feel bad looking at other rings, either online or while out and about, and I have told him more than once I’ll be happy with whatever he gets me (and make sure to tell him whichever of the three I loved the time we went shopping he chooses I will adore) but Saturday he said that made it sound like whatever I get would be a “consolation prize” so I had to talk him down from that.  I think it’s best if I just focus on those three rings and Jedi mind trick one of them onto my hand very very soon! LOL ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the waiting drives people a little nuts. We went into an antique store to look for a locket for an xmas present for someone and while looking through the cases i walked past THE ring.  I gasped and just stood there looking at it.  I showed him and asked him to find the price.  When we found out the price, i was so mad! I knew it was more money than we had just hanging around.  And it was more money than i wanted him to spend.  We left and i cried so hard! I was upset we weren’t engaged.  I was upset we were poor.  I was upset we didn’t have a credit card so we could pretend we weren’t poor, lol.  We’re talking full on adult temper tantrum here.  Normally i’m pretty relaxed and very good anout not wanting things outside of my price range.  Anywho, it turns out that later that day he went back, sweet talked the old lady working the counter to put it on layaway with the amount of money he had in his pocket rather than the acctually nessesary downpayment for a layaway (thank goodness for his people skills and for personally owned buisnesses!) and he spent a little while paying it off.  I threw a tantrum like a jerk and SHOULD NOT have gotten what i wanted, since i behaved like a child.  But i’m glad i did.  Sometimes we show our not so good side.  it’s not cause we’re not good, it’s just because we’re so emotionally invested in these people and our own lives with them.  Good thing they forgive our insanities!

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