Post # 1
Man…”shut it up” FAIL yesterday. One of my old friends who I lived with for a year got married yesterday and I was upset that I wasn’t invited and that yet another person is getting married before me (which brings the score to everyone: married, me and girl who has no interest in marriage: not married). Boyfriend and I were driving around yesterday and we somehow got around to the topic of kids and saving money and how he thinks we should wait until i’m 30 to have kids (6 years from now).
I just flipped. I was like SIX YEARS? NO! Not acceptable! I will not wait six years to start a family with you. I don’t want to wait that long. I wanted to be a young mother. Every one of my friends is either married with mutlple kids, married with one kid, married and expecting, married, getting married, or getting married TODAY!
I freaked out some more until he started giggling. He was trying to push my buttons and it worked.
I was a total brat about everything (which I regret), but he did end up giving away some promising info:
*he has been discussing rings with his sister (she works in a high-end jewelry store…he won’t buy from there but she’s been giving him advice)
*he is planning on asking my dad in july when we visit my family
*it sounds like we’ll be engaged before he has to move in january
*i’m not waiting six years
Post # 3
You are only 24? Holy crap girl, you need to slow down.
Post # 4
@MissAmethyst: Sounds like he is going to be ring shopping very soon, yay 🙂 I disagree with PP, why should you slow down? You are ready to get married and have children, nothing wrong with that!!!
Post # 5
@Jacqui90: thank you! I’m 24…I have a career that I’ve been in for three years now. I’ll be finishing my master’s soon. My boyfriend is 29. We’ve been dating for over 2 years…I don’t think there’s anything wrong with me wanting to get married and have kids!
Post # 6
@MissAmethyst: Exactly, nothing wrong with it at all! I am 23 in September, have been engaged for over a year, been with FI for over 4 years, he works full time, I study part time. We are waiting for a few years to get married so I can finish my studies, but due to health that is taking a lot longer than planned. So I sympathise with wanting to get married at this stage!
Post # 7
I’m 24, nearly 25, so I get it. We’ve been together 2 years and I want more than living like teenagers at our parents’ houses. But, it’s going to be at least 2 years for marriage, and consequently, at least 3 for kids. That is just how life is going to go. I figure I can either compromise with him and stay with him, or leave someone I love for being single again and have no guarantee of anything in 2-3 years. For me, the choice is clear, I’m sticking with him and an imperfect timeline
Post # 8
@MissAmethyst: That does sound promising! What is it with men & liking to mess with us waiting girls?! 🙂 So mean. I think it’s just cause it’s the only part of the relationship they are actually, totally in charge of 😉
Post # 9
@MissAmethyst: I’m 37, never had kids or never married (should be in about a year for the first time), but I still don’t think you’re too young if you do want to start your life this way. I find that I am old to start all that, and wish I could have started sooner (it was a bit my fault and a lot of circumstances outside my control).
But what really annoys me is that you call yourself a brat for the way you reacted to your boyfriend’s “joke”… I think you reacted like anyone would, and it is your boyfriend’s fault for messing up with you like that! And he is 29… sounds like HE is the brat lol! Anyway, I just think that guys are really acting childish about this whole engagement/wedding thing and my patience is wearing thin, especially when they start teasing on top of that! You sound like a patient and caring girl to me for not hitting him haha! 🙂 I hope he realizes what he has and hurry up so he dosen’t lose you 😉
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
well that certainly does sound promising! I don’t think you should be in a rush, but there is definitely a difference between being in a rush and having to wait 6 years. I would have flipped out too if my FI said he wanted to wait until 30 to start thinking about it!
Post # 12
Im 23 so I can understand where you are coming from .. age is just a number and when you know, you know 🙂 Congratulations January is not that far away and sounds as though he is getting organised!
Post # 14
@MissAmethyst: haha, ok BUT at least you realized you were being ridiculous, and it sounds like you’ve got a good man there. It’s good that he can tease you, and when you flip out irrationally, he laughs.
Post # 15
No way am I waiting til I’m 30 either! You go girl. I love hat he knows just how to wind you up too but then didn’t get mad when it worked. Very exciting news all round.