Post # 1
Hi everyone…I’m brand new to WB. I’ve lurked for months, but just officially joined tonight. My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I haven’t been dating long – only about a year and a half – but the day after we officially got together (a week after we met), he told me he was going to make me his wife one day. So our relationship has moved quickly from the start. By the way, I’m 27 and will be done with nursing school in April 2014, and he is 33 and working full-time.
Two weeks ago (Labor Day weekend), we very randomly stopped inside a store and ended up buying THE RING because it was a great deal. When we got home, he let me wear the ring for a bit and I kept sneaking it on until I finally swore I wouldn’t anymore. Such torture! Since then it had been sitting on top of his dresser (we don’t live together, but I stay with him most of the week), until I finally convinced him to at least put it away (so I wouldn’t know when he was about to propose).
It’s been two weekends now, and I keep thinking he’s going to do it. I’ve gotten 2 manicures! His BIL even congratulated us when he dropped by the house yesterday. I very awkwardly thanked him for the preemptive congratulations. SO made a comment about it happening before Thanksgiving, but I’m having such a hard time waiting because I know he has the ring!
He keeps saying that he knows I want a grand proposal. In fact, he posted a flash mob proposal video on my fb, watched as I cried my eyes out (how do you not cry when watching proposal videos??), and triumphantly declared: “I knew it! You want the flash mob!” I keep trying to tell him that I don’t need anything special, but I inevitably follow it up with saying that I just want him to get down on one knee…and say my full name…and have it photographed somehow. *sigh* I’m trying my best not to mention it, but I guess I’m just not that patient of a person. Sorry, I’m probably being a brat since I know a lot of bees on this board have been waiting way longer than me.
Thanks for letting me vent (I’m starting to drive my nursing school carpool crazy). Any help? Kind words? You could also tell me if I’m being downright ridiculous…
Post # 3
First of all, congratulations – he has a ring!! That is so exciting. And it sounds like he wants to give it to you SOON. Even more exciting!!
It probably seems torturous trying to wait now, especially if he has had it out and in plain sight (why would he do that to you?! That’s just mean.). But at least you know it’s there, he’s thinking about it, and it’s coming soon! Thanksgiving might seem like a long time from now, with an engagement on the horizon to think about, but it will be here before you know it. And from what you said, it sounds like he doesn’t really want to wait that long – he just wants to make sure it’s special.
Good luck!! Hopefully we will be hearing good news from you soon. 🙂
Post # 4
I know the feeling… My SO and I picked out my ring together, and now I’m waiting. I do my nails every week now lol!
Since you’re in nursing school, I would say try to focus on that when you can’t handle waiting. Try to distract yourself when you can, but still keep your nails looking good! I think it will happen sooner than you think! Good luck!
Post # 5
@Miss.PeanutButter: Thank you for the kind words! 🙂 I know I’m being silly, and I probably don’t have all that long to wait (in the grand scheme of things).
@lovelee1: Haha it’s like I’ve developed this obsession with having nicely manicured nails! It’s funny because I have so much to worry about with nursing school…I really don’t have time to sit around thinking about the proposal, but I still do. Thank you for the support and good luck to you too!
Post # 6
My Fiance did the same thing to me. I was there in May when he ordered the ring but I had never seen it all assembled with my stone and setting until he proposed this past Saturday. He picked out my manicure color and everything (I asked his opinion). I picked it all off, I guess he didn’t realize manis only last 3 days at most haha-once it was reduced to flecks (something I never do) boom-he asked. So embarrassing to have to run out the very next morning and get a quick manicure before you can take a picture of your hand haha.
lol since I was just in your shoes last week, I’m going to mimic the advice given to me! Busy yourself…cook, bake, paint, work out, read, watch a television series from start to finish (Downton Abbey on Amazon Prime was my waiting show)…and just when you least expect it…there it will be 🙂
Post # 7
I was with my SO when he ordered the ring and when it was delivered. Trust me. It is killing me!!!!!!!!!!! You aren’t crazy. I would love to be part of a flash mob but not be proposed to by one. I have told my SO this and he understands that I want it to be just the two of us and possibly a photographer. To me, it is a different type of waiting when you know you have the ring. It it kinda feels like it is one step away and you don’t know when he will take it. I haven’t done my nails becasue I am torture on my nails. Paint won’t last two hours for me. I do plan on getting them done right after he proposes so I can have pretty nails to show everyone. 🙂 Good luck. Hopefully he won;t make you wait too much longer.
Post # 8
I know how you feel. My boyfriend is about to get the ring delivered from the US any time in the next couple of weeks. The only difference is, he is as impatient as I am 😀 haha
Post # 9
Two days after me and Fiance had our first date he asked me my ring size. I told him he was crazy. He kept asking and saying things about it. So by the time he actually DID it I was surprised because I was so used to him bringing it up, even though he told me he bought the ring. I think your hunnie might be trying to make that happen. Every girl deserves a GRAND proposal and I am sure he wants that for you. You said it wasn’t planned to buy the ring so maybe he is working out the details since he hadn’t planned on this yet. I am sure when the time comes it will be great because otherwise he would have just given you the ring right away. Good things come to those who wait.
Post # 10
Hi @kitkat2014: first… a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
Sounds like the Proposal isn’t far off now.
Just 10 Weeks to Thanksgiving if that is any help (less than 3 if you are a Canadian Bee)
You might want to get a calendar, and start marking off the days… it will be here before you know it.
Keeping BUSY also helps a lot.
As you are a New Bee you might want to read thru Mr Bee’s Plan (sticky at the top of the WAITING BOARD) it has lots of ideas on keeping busy… and WHY that is important
Anyhow, sounds like the wheels are in motion… so that is the good news
Thing is we have to remember to give our guys there moment too… us Gals get to plan like crazy the Wedding we’ve had in our heads forever… but for them the Proposal is THERE BIG THING… so it is very important to them and their egos that we just let it unfold as they wish (no pressure)
I am sure it will be wonderful… so I look forward to reading more of your posts in the future.
Post # 11
@kitkat2014: Ehhh I still thought about my some-day proposal when I was in nursing school. You can’t kill yourself with all that studying without some kind of release!
Welcome to the Bee. Is your posted wedding date true to when you guys were thinking of getting married? That would put it after you are done with the NCLEX and hopefully have a job, unless you are waiting to be employed until after the wedding. What specialty are you looking to go into? Anyway, congrats on getting the ring! Now you just have to GET it lol
Post # 12
I picked mine up with my now husband right before Thanksgiving of 2011. He put the ringbox in a bag and wiggled it in front of me. I just had to smile and be happy that he had the ring. He waited until June of 2012 to give it to me, that was torture. But we are married now and it all worked out well.
Post # 13
Thank you all for your support and helpful tips! 🙂 I’m also trying to remember to focus on the fact that I’m going to get engaged, which means I’m going to marry the man I love…and not just focus on the beautiful ring I can’t wait to wear haha.
@WrestlersLove: I completely agree that it’s a different kind of waiting! Back before he had the ring, the proposal was just this abstract event some time in the future. But now that the ring is somewhere in the house…all he has to do is ask! Haha I guess I’ll savor the excitement. Good luck to you too!!
@natashakay: Haha that’s great! Good luck and I can’t wait to hear about the proposal 🙂
@realtreegal: Yes, I had a brief moment of thinking that he wasn’t ready to get engaged, but then why would he have bought the ring? So silly! I’m sure he has some kind of plan (that my brother seems to know about too!), and the last thing I want to do is pester him to the point where he just says “Screw it…” and abandons his plan.
@This Time Round: Thank you! 🙂 Yes, I am trying to keep very busy and it does help. And I do want to let him have this proposal plan and make it just how he wants it. No matter how he does it, I’m sure I will love it.
@Nurse_Bee: That’s a good point. Looking at the pictures of my ring is a really nice study break! Thank you…the date is about when I’d like to get married (that was required when signing up, right?). My grandfather (the only grandparent I have left) was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and I would love to have the wedding before his memory goes completely. I am the oldest of his grandchildren and the only one even close to marriage. However, as I’m sure you know, Alzheimer’s can be very predictable…so we’ll see what happens. I’d love to do anything in Maternal-Child Health, even in the public health arena.
@Day_In_The_Life: Omigosh! That must have driven you crazy. I’m impressed with your ability to wait that long. And I’m glad all is now well 🙂
Post # 14
Oh also, another bee on another waiting thread said something along the lines of having put the impending proposal out of her mind so completely and being so busy with other things that she didn’t even notice the signs when he actually did propose. So that’s my new goal…to be so busy and productive that I don’t even realize when he’s about to propose. Given the fact that I know exactly what the ring looks like…I’d like to have as much surprise with the actual proposal as possible.
Post # 15
Yep…my ring is at mymom’s house, lol! She is guarding it so I know its not like- tomorrow, lol! She lives a nice distance away from us. Some times I think about it, sometimes I don’t… we shall see
Post # 16
I’m also a nursing student and around the same age as you (28)!!!
That must be driving you crazy! Before we officially got engaged, we had talked about marriage. In fact, he had proposed while we were on holiday, it was the happiest day of my life but we kept it hush hush because he wanted to do an official proposal with a beautiful ring. So, I waited and waited and he’d say we’d have to wait another year or so till he could afford it, he really made me think it wasn’t going to happen for ages, lol. I think I was a bit of a nag too, dropping hints about telling everyone we’re engaged, etc plus he was copping flak from his mum too about when he was going to propose. He really had both of us fooled! He proposed at Christmas though and it was lovely!
My point is, is that you just never know when they’ll do it, whether they’ve forgotten and if they know that you can be patient but not THAT patient, haha! ! It’ll be out of the blue and it’ll be great!