Post # 1
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Helper bee
OK, I felt weird enough picking out gifts. My fiance didn’t give me any input at all except some sort of electric side grill thing. That I decided to take off the registry because it had NOTHING but 1 star reviews because of it being a bad product. Then he had no input on another one!
We don’t live together yet so we have absolutely no idea what our place will look like. I was told to put “nice” items on the registry in case anyone wanted to buy us something really expensive but I didn’t. My mom said I should have put a nice pan set, and I did, a $200 one. OK, that’s not enough money to ask someone to spend? What?
Now my grandmother is calling me because she is the one who said I “put all cheap stuff” on the registry. Isn’t a registry just a guide and people can get you whatever they want? We don’t live together though… we have no idea what we need other than the essentials…
I don’t know what anyone can say about this, it’s a bit more of a vent than anything else but curious if anyone has input on what we should do, should we leave it be, is it weird to add to the registries if people know of them and have checked them already?
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
A registry is a great way for people to get you the things you need/want. If you don’t have one you may end up with multiples of one thing, seriously how many crockpots does one person need? lol.
It’s up to people how much they want to spend, but you don’t need to put all inexpensive things on your registry. That is something you two need to talk about. No it isn’t wierd to add to your registry after people may have viewed it. (At least i don’t think its wierd.) You both need to go to the store and look at things. MAybe go with a list of essentials and then look at other things.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
I think you should add items you’ll really want and appreciate within reason and then forget about it. It’s better people say its cheap (although I prefer reasonable priced) than “wow I can’t believe they expect us to buy this for them”
Good luck!
ETA: It’s also a good idea to splurge a little, if no one buys it..well then…oh well.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
You can put whatever you want on there. Usually people complain there’s not enough cheap stuff on there, lol. You can definitely add to it though. I kept our’s small because we also have a honeymoon registry. We only really needed a few new things like towels, dishes etc. Future Mother-In-Law complained I didn’t have enough stuff on there so I added some things that would be nice to have but we didn’t really need. Yep, well at my shower I received mostly things we didn’t need and almost none of my original items we actually need!
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
There are tons of higher price point items you can add…. knives, pots and pans (nice ones), food processsor, blender, toaster (nice one, our breville one is awesome), duvet set for your bed, etc. I’m sure you are just not thinking about all the things you could use/want/need. And even if you are and you really don’t need or want anything that is at a higher price point, then screw your mean family members and they can keep thier stupid thoughts to themselves, it’s just a registry afterall.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
I don’t think she was trying to insult you. I’ve seen many expensive items on registries – $400 for example. I think it’s good to give people the option of going in together on a gift for you if they want 🙂 More inexpensive items are also good too though.
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
Personally, I think it’s better to have inexpesive items over expensive ones, if you’re going to go one way or the other. People can always buy you more than one less expensive thing, but it’s more difficult to buy half of an expensive item (ie: share the cost with another guest). That’s possible, however as a guest, I’d rather go it alone and choose item(s) within my budget. As long as you have enough items for people to choose from, I wouldn’t worry about the price as much.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
We had a huge variety on our registry – and I was surprised by people’s generosity. We had a couple bridal shower guests buy 10-20 of our $1-5 dollar items and fill a basket, etc. We had other guests who bought our Dyson for us, as well as All-Clad pans!
I think you’d be shocked how generous people can be. But don’t put things you don’t want or will not use on there, just to have pricier items. Choose solid, great pans (stainless steel are fantastic!), some quality appliances, nice barware (wine glasses, highballs) that you can use for entertaining, etc.
If you have your eye on a cheaper dishes set, throw a couple place settings of a really nice one (if you like it!) on there, too. Keep in mind that you can always return after your shower and wedding, and people will likely get you cash and gift cards, too.
Have fun!
Post # 10
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Worker bee
ok, just think of it like this, what do you need in the kitchen that you dont have on hand? plates, utensils, glassware, pans etc, then move into the bathroom, shower curtains, bathroom sets, towels, many towels, then bedroom, you will need sheets, pillow cases, bed spread. then if you want to add decoration stuff *which i think is personal. try to get a good store and a mix in prices, or two stores for those who likes pricey stuff like macys, or others like target, bed bath and beyond.
i choose nothing because i already have everything, so we told everyone, that their presence is what we want and that if they want to give us something cash is prefer!
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
I think that this has brought up a more important issue than your registry:
You don’t live together yet, but you don’t know what you will need once you do? This would be the time to go through what you will need to buy and replace etc once you live together after the wedding. And the registry is a great place to add these things to. Even if you don’t end up getting a lot of gifts from your registry, I am under the impression that after the wedding the couple can buy registered items for less than normal price. This will greatly help when you move in together!
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
A lot of the woman in my family go in on gifts together, so I put quite a few high priced items on ours. I figured that if I kept it all lower priced items that they would be bought quicker leaving less things to be purchased. If that makes sense….
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
I think you should leave your registry the way you have it. You like it, why change for someone who acts like an ass?
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
How do you think they would react if you registered for money through a honeymoon or new house fund? Some people might think it’s tacky but at least they can give you whatever amount they feel is appropriate. A quick google search turned up honeyfund.com and downpaymentdreams.com. Maybe it’d be worth looking into?
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