(Closed) I wasn't expecting THAT many to not RSVP!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
7990 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Did they just not send the card back or did they actually RSVP no? If you didn’t receive the card back at all I’d call them up and confirm.

Post # 2
8584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Did you just not get some in the mail? I would wait a few days.. they may still be trickling in. In about a week, I would call those who haven’t RSVP’d… they may have forgotten.

Post # 4
45656 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

cwedding14:  Don’t assume that they are not coming. When you get around to contacting people, there will surely be some who say” We thought you would know that of course we are coming.”

Give it a few days after your deadline for late rsvp’s to arrive in the mail, then get on the phone or email those who have not responded to confirm numbers for the caterer.

Post # 5
12634 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If they haven’t responded, you need to call and get firm decisions from them.  You can’t assume that they aren’t coming just because you didn’t get the response cards.  People may have forgotten, they could have gotten lost in the mail — failing to follow up would just make you look like a poor hostess if any of these people showed up and you weren’t expecting them.  It’s a simple call, “Hey, Aunt Sally,  We never got your response card.  are you able to come to the wedding?”  

Post # 7
1773 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Don’t take it personally at all.  Give it a few more days, then, between you and your FI, contact everyone who didn’t respond by whatever their preferrred method of communication is (call, text, email, fb pm, in person) and ask them if they’ll be able to make it or not.  It’s not a big deal.  We did that and got over 20 more responses in a day. 

Post # 9
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton

cwedding14:  A lot of my friends are awful at remembering to RSVP for things – they put it off too long and then always remember after the deadline or they just end up losing the invitation altogether. Now that we’re planning our wedding I always wonder how people could just forget to RSVP – it’s so easy! – but it is just a different mindset and definitely nothing personal. Hopefully you get a few more in this week before you have to start calling your guests! 🙂

Post # 11
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We’re kind of in the same boat. People that said they were for sure coming aren’t and people that we didn’t think would come are. It’s weird because the people who aren’t coming are the close family/friends and people who are, are people we’re not as close with.

Post # 13
964 posts
Busy bee

We had about 30 people (maybe even more, actually) who didn’t RSVP and after calling them all up, under 10 actually RSVP’d No and the rest ended up coming.

People are lazy and they EASILY forget. My RSVPs were by email/phone too, so it’s not like we could have made it easier on them!

Post # 14
1561 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

cwedding14:  We had to chase down a few people on my side of the family who would just keep saying that “they’ll do it this evening” and eventually, I just said, “All I need to know is if you are coming and what you would prefer to eat between beef, fish, and vegetarian, since my numbers are due to my venue soon”

There were about 16 people who just simply did not respond at all and won’t respond to any emails or texts. We wrote them off as no.

Post # 15
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

If you did not get the RSVP cards back you cant assume that its a no. Honestly, I am really bad about mailing back RSVP cards even when I plan on attending. It just gets buried in my mail and I forget about it. You should call and confirm.

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