(Closed) I wasn’t really expecting this..

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
Hostess
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry.  I’m sure that it will work out for the best but her dating someone that might be a subordinate worries me.

Post # 4
Member
2091 posts
Buzzing bee

Awhh 🙁 I’m so sorry you didn’t get the promotion! If anyone deserved it, it was you.

Post # 6
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1767 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@SweetRose2011: 🙁 I’m really sorry. Try not to take it personally and realize that people aren’t always deserving of the positions they’re given. At my last job, I trained the drug addict who later became assistant manager. Did I mention she was cheating on her imprisoned husband with one of the cooks…?

I’m not implying that this other girl is any of those things, but I’m just saying that most times, really good hardworking people get passed over for promotions for reasons that no one will ever understand.

I’m sure you’re great at your job. Try not to get discouraged. Just keep doing what you do and keep your customers and yourself as happy as possible.

*HUGS*

Post # 7
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That sucks–I was so excited for you. Keep your chin up though, it just might not have been your time. I know I’ve commented on my career struggles to you before (way different field, but same personality traits/struggles) and I would really take what your boss said and think about it. You may be doing things that you aren’t even realizing that you do that are holding you back from where you want to be.

Do you have a decent relationship with your boss? If you do, I would ask her to make a point about telling you when you do something she sees as unprofessional or when you aren’t working well with your peers, and to tell you in a timely manner so you can work on those types of things. And maybe ask for suggestions about how she would have handled the situation differently.

I’m sure your time for bigger and better will come soon, and these situations will just help to better you and make you more successful in whatever comes next.

Hugs

Post # 8
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4824 posts
Honey bee

I am sorry.

I would ask your boss to give you examples of the ways you are not a leader or exactly how you are unprofessional. Then ask her what you need to do to be “promotable”

It could be that there are things you are just unaware of that made you not ready for promotion. It could be their perception, but not reality so by asking them you can see where they are coming from.

Post # 9
Member
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m so sorry to hear you didn’t get that promotion-I know you wanted it pretty bad. But it will be okay. And do NOT feel bad about it. The best employees do not always make the best managers. You sound like you’re really good at customer service and that’s your talent. So, don’t take this personally (easier said than done) and definitely keep your options open:)

Post # 11
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry about this, I know it must be a huge let down and frustrating.  It sounds like you do a fantastic job and they don’t want to lose you, but if they were looking to promote you to a managment type position, some companies are really picky about that with personalities, ect.  They want someone that is helpful to others, but also a leader.  Be sure you share any ideas you have with your manager of things that would be cost savings for the company or simple things to impliment to save time as well.  Don’t set any limits.  If they see you thinking outside the box and acting above and beyond your current position (other things than expected like being on time, ect.) they will consider you again.  They also sometimes like managers that just “do what their told”, so that may be the other girl.  It really depends on what they are looking for.  Best of luck to you and be sure to keep track of all the training, ect that you do at this job to have in case you want to throw your resume out there.

Post # 12
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@SweetRose2011: I think that’s what I was saying – they really look at that.  I’m sure you’re fantastic with customers and they love you for that reason – but for managment it’s a whole new ball park.

Post # 13
Member
4824 posts
Honey bee

@SweetRose2011: You seem to have it figured out. So good lunch in the future.  

You also mentioned you are friendly and people like being around you. I am sure that is true! However, bosses arent usually your best friend, but someone you get along with. Is it possible that you are too friendly with coworkers while at work? To that point that your boss may think you wouldnt be able to reprimand someone or that they wouldnt respect you in an authoritative position? Just something else to think about.  

Post # 15
Member
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@SweetRose2011: No doubt, they sound like great ideas.  Your company sounds very lucky to have you.  If you are interested in a management position, make sure you take on some leadership roles at work and I agree with the others to speak with your direct mananger and make an outline of what you need to accomplish to be ready for that position.  Try and enjoy your weekend, more opportunities always pop up : )

Post # 16
Member
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think this is awful. Your boss prepped you by asking you all kinds of questions and THEN tells you that you’re unprofessional and not a leader? Why couldn’t s/he have said something before you went for the promotion and got your hopes up? Or at least offered that as constructive criticism that you could address in your interview and counter that view of you. I would start trying to find something else girl. If that’s how they show appreciation for hard work at that place, then let them find someone else, you deserve better! 

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