(Closed) I wasn’t sure where to post this, but I needed to vent.

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

i don’t have much advice to offer as i don’t know much about your condition. But i want to say that i think it is INSANE and completley unprofessional that your doctor told you something other than the truth…WTF?  I am sorry for your loss and I hope you one day get to conceive a healthy baby.   FWIW, i am sure you know that ALOT of people have one or two miscarriages before carrying full term, so maybe this was nothing out of the ordinary and not indicative of future problems with TTC?

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

@StefLovesJamie:  i thought of that too, but wasn’t sure what to say regarding the means of how you found out…..although now that i think about, i know in my province, you have the right to request to see your medical records complete file.  So maybe you could formally request to see it and it will be like you found out “legally”.  then take it from there…

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wow, what your doctor did was super unethical. That is unbelievable! I’m shocked. Tbh I would be even more upset about the giant breach of trust with your doctor than the miscarriage itself, though yes you have every right to be upset about both issues.

Good luck with everything.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Make copies, printouts, or screenshots of your records, take them to a different ob-gyn, and find out what the hell is going on. You deserve to know the truth before you start having sex again, whether you’re TTC or not.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@StefLovesJamie:  Is there a Planned Parenthood near you? They generally have good docs and are affordable.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so so sorry you are going through this, and I hope that you are ok. I can only offer you my sympathies and best wishes on that front. I have limited knowledge on your condition based on my BMS training and general experience/knowledge.

Endo is when some of the endometrium grows outside of the uterus in whats known as “chocolate cysts” which grow and bleed in tandem with your normal cycle, usually on or around the ovaries. It can also lead to scar tissue and adhesions forming around the uterus which sort of glues it to nearby organs. I imagine you have very heavy and painful periods. It is common for women to have subfertility with this condition, however that doesn’t mean you won’t get pregnant. With every condition it differs from person to person so you need to see a specialist that can do some hormone profiles and other tests if you are concerned.

Don’t lose heart though, my own mother had some serious problems with PCOS and was told she was unlikely to every have children, and she had 6!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’m sorry, in time, everything will heal trust me. I recommend to you, taking prenatal vitamins and watchiing your caffeine intake if you could get pregnant. Folate is critical to have in your body between day 21-27 after fertilization. Without it, you could have nerual tube complications. It’ll be okay. I know how you’re feeling, and I think you should let your friend know that comment was hurtful to you. Talk to your Fiance and your feelings. He may also be feeling down about it. Communication is key! Good luck, keep your head up!

~*~*~~*~sending good vibes your way~~*~**~

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@StefLovesJamie:  I am jealous of all women that don’t even know when their on (I know a few). Good luck with your doctor searching, I would definitly take your notes to a different doctor, I don’t think i would be able to trust a doctor that lied to me. I always forget its so different in America then over here in the UK when it comes to healthcare. I wish you luck!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@StefLovesJamie:  haha thanks, I hated it when I was younger though because it was impossible to spell and continuously mis-pronounced. I hope you are able to resolve this soon, like I said, I don’t know much on the subject (I work in haematology, and alot of the tests involved with investigating endo are performed in Histology, Chemistry or medical imaging). I do think going to a different gynae is the best option though, just for your own piece of mind.

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