Post # 1
I went to a wedding yesterday and it was lovely! But it does make me kinda impatient. Around the table we were talking, just me, SO and his would-be best man about what is even the point of marriage because we have been together so long and the couple who were getting married just haven’t, it’s only been a couple of years for them. I said to SO’s would-be best man that “we are married anyway” because I definitely think we are if what being married means is a loving commitment to last a lifetime. But I still love weddings and think throwing one would be lovely! So the waiting game continues. Because I really wish SO saw things the way that I do – I am so ready now. I look at everyone else getting married and I think “it should be me!”. When will it ever be my turn eh, Hive? SO just doesn’t seem to think that any time soon is a good idea. Sigh.
Post # 3
Did you guys ever talk about it?
Sometimes men have mental milestones in their minds that they want to reach before getting engaged and having a wedding, such as having a career in order, buying a house, being able to afford paying for a wedding, etc.
You’ll know when the right time is, or when the right time to start talking about it is. Since you went to a wedding this past weekend, maybe it’s a good time to talk about it soon? If you said in front of your SO that you feel like you are already married, maybe your SO never talks about it because he really thinks that you don’t want to or feel the need to. Men are pretty literal – if you say things like that, they will believe it, and not pick up on your other hints.
Post # 4
I can relate to how you feel exactly. I am engaged now, but for about a 4-6 month period prior, I found myself feeling almost resentful toward other people’s wedding-related activities. The best advice I can give you is to try to not be like this and to focus on other things. It took its toll on me emotionally. I realize this is easier said than done. 🙁
Post # 5
Do you guys ever talk about a timeline?? It sucks that he dose not think any time soon would be a good time 🙁
Post # 6
@soyjoy222: No, it isn’t a case of hints, we (I) talk about it all the time. We’re going to get married, just not any time soon.
@misskittykakes Yep, but he doesn’t have a timeline, just not yet because we can’t afford it. So no time soon.
@txcpa I didn’t resent the bride and groom, I was thrilled for them! I know what you mean though, I’ve seen a lot of people on here feeling that way and a lot of people who take it too seriously and get so upset. I try not to be that person. I try to stay off this site most of the time and to think about other stuff and work on practical stuff like savings so we actually can get afford it one day.