Post # 1
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Blushing bee
Yeah, this was said by my creepy brother. I had to remind him that I did have a real wedding. Sure it was in a courthouse but it was my wedding. He then said “No, I mean with everyone there and traditions. The stuff that matters.” I said “Yeah, family was there. Of course you weren’t because apparently my weddind didn’t matter as much as a football game did and I did have that stuff. You wouldn’t know because you weren’t there.”
“Why are you hurt?”
“Because you implied I didn’t have a real wedding. I did.”
“Why does it matter?”
“Why does having the “first wedding” matter? You try to act like you are topping me by saying you are going to have a wedding with all of the family but remember that my family did come. Not all of the aunts and uncles because I don’t see them enough but my grandparents, certain siblings and parents did come. I had a BBQ where dad’s side came. I didn’t have to deal with the stress of everything.”
” Don’t get hurt! Yeah but you didn’t do the bouquet toss or anything like that!”
“So you are saying that my wedding didn’t count because I didn’t do that stuff? Also don’t tell me not to be hurt when you stay stuff like that. If you didn’t want me angry you should have thought out what you were saying”
“No but-“
“You aren’t even dating anyone. Don’t get creepy and weird about a wedding. Not only that but people who mattered came to the wedding and BBQ.”
“I wasn’t there!”
“I know.”
Don’t pick a fight with someone before they had their coffee.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
@Doralise: Ugh that’s annoying. I don’t think he understands that the “stuff that matters” is the getting married part. Sounds like a real gem :
Cue coffee break!
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Your brother said he’ll be the first to have a “real” wedding and he’s not even DATING anyone right now? What a jerk.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
It sounds like he was a jerk about it with the “stuff that matters” comment, but I wouldn’t be upset if someone said that to me. I didn’t even want to have a traditional, big, conventional wedding. Did you want to have a big wedding but were unable to for some reason? If you had the wedding you wanted, then it shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks.
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
@caritas: We did plan the traditonal wedding but a lot of things got in the way so it was the Courthouse for us. I am still a little touchy about the wedding as there were some drama even involved with that day but I do resent my brother implying we didn’t have a “real wedding”especially coming from a person who didn’t think it was even important enough to attend. We are having a vow renewal but it is going to be just between my husband and I.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
I wouldn’t be bothered by his comment – especially since he’s not even dating anyone. I think what he was trying to say is that you didn’t have a “traditional” wedding and he is planning on having one.
Post # 8
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Newbee
I am having a court hosue wedding in 3 weeks and if I had a penny for every time someone has asked me why I’m not having a real wedding I would be a millionaire.
Your brother sounds like a piece of work. Try not to take his comments personally! It sounds like you had a special day 🙂
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
LOL “don’t pick a fight before coffee”- perfect.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
“…Not only that but people who mattered came to the wedding and BBQ.”
“I wasn’t there!”
“I know.”
The shade of it all!! LMAO I’m cracking up, your comebacks were awesome
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
Well I’m having a big wedding in a reception hall, but we’re not having a bouquet toss or big white cake. So now I just don’t know if that’s a real wedding or not 😛
Anyways that’s lame, but I wouldn’t worry about it. Sounds like typically stupid brother comments. Some people really just don’t think about how stuff sounds before they let it out of their mouths.
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
No one knows how to push your buttons like siblings 😀
Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I’m sorry to say that your brother is a douche. Of course your wedding was a real wedding! I loved your end to the conversation! This is definitely the first time I’ve heard of a guy being a bridezilla before he’s even dating anyone!!!
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
LOL I’d venture a guess that based on his idea of a “real” wedding, your brother doesn’t know his ass from his elbow!
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
@HisBride515:
“…Not only that but people who mattered came to the wedding and BBQ.”
“I wasn’t there!”
“I know.”
The shade of it all!! LMAO I’m cracking up, your comebacks were awesome
:::digs a hole, spins, then does a Micheal Jackson kick before laying in the hole::: Totally dead from that shade.
Post # 16
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Helper bee
I agree with all of you bees! Brother is an idiot. He hasn’t had to deal with the STRESS of planning a ‘real’ wedding. Believe me, when he has to face these decisions, and a FI CRAZY enough to put up with his BS enough to agree to marry him, he will be BEGGING for a courthouse wedding.
I have been begging FI for a courthouse wedding myself. My parents did it, I want to too! The stress is getting to me, and all I want is to wear my pretty dress, hold a pretty bouquet, and be married to the best man I have ever met.
Nope, FI wants his ‘fairy tale wedding’. Ugh.
ALL weddings are equal – you say the same damn vows. Anyone who says otherwise deserves to be chewed out – before or after a coffee break!
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