(Closed) I wish I had wedding updates to share with you bees.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Aww, I personally love having you around on the boards. I know what you mean about being excited for and congratulating all of the Bees but not having any updates to share, I’m not planning a wedding so I feel like that sometimes too. Sending lots and lots (and lots!) of hugs your way.

Post # 4
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m over 2 years out, and I’m still here, so there is definitely a place for you here, regardless of your stage in life. Is there a possibility for you and the Fiance to say F it, and just run off somewhere and elope? Just a suggestion, but I hope things start looking up for you ((HUGS))

Post # 6
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are going to elope on our honeymoon too.  Not sure when though.  Last week, I just undid the wedding which was scheduled for July (4 months away).  Hang in there!

Post # 7
7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


Oh honey I’m so sorry you are feeling like that sending you tons of hugs. You know sometimes I envy you because you don’t have ALL the stress that comes with planning everything but at the same time I so wish you could experience it as well. Hang in there and I’m here for you if you need an ear to listen. Btw I’m sooooo sending u an invite for my bridal shower! :-p so you better get ready to come to a Parisian fete! Love ya girl xoox

Post # 9
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Rouquine:  I don’t know the whole back story, but I feel like if his parents are the ones who don’t want you to elope, they need to make up their minds.  It’s really unfair to you to be in this wedding limbo- can Fiance figure out if they’re serious about hosting/paying and if they aren’t you guys should be able to plan your elopement.  I’m sorry you’re going through this, I hope it works out for you!

Post # 11
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Long post for you, but hope my story helps in some way.

I can relate to being frustrated with everyone asking about the wedding planning when infact, there are no real plans.  My Fiance proposed 5 yrs ago. Yes, 5 yrs.  He is a Dr. and proprosed Easter morning. He made an Easter basket for me and hid it in an egg.  So cute!! I had no idea that he bought a ring, and was really surprised that he proposed.  He wanted to wait atleast one year for the wedding after graduation.

Fast forward —now “FINALLY” we are getting married –in two months! “Finally” that’s all that comes out of everyone’s mouths.  It is as funny as it is annoying. We waited for finacial reasons.  Dr.’s are very poor right out of college, and we took the money we saved for a wedding and opened up his own practice. Money had been tight and we knew that we could never enjoy a wedding that we could not afford.  Both of our fathers have passed, and our mothers are not in a place where they can, nor would we ask, for them to contribute financially to our wedding.  So we waited. We thought of several ways to get married –elope by ourselves vs small wedding… We knew that if we eloped that we would be so happy that we would want to celebrate with friends. I almost wish I had it in me to elope and just be happy with that. I envy those who can –it is very romantic, but not for me.

So for five years of engagement, people have made remarks that I should ditch him, old men have told me that if he doesn’t marry me then they will, & I had to endure remarks asking what is wrong with our relationship (so rude) while remaining professional.  Oy.  I work with patients that I see on a routine basis and would be asked about my wedding planning for sooo long several x a day. Patients are now getting so elated for me that they are bringing in presents!! Things are turning around —for them.  They are now happy and not worried about me. lol My friends and family completely understood, and love Fiance, so atleast I wasn’t asked about it by them.

We are and have been secure with our relationship, but it was tough on us and we went through rough patches because we were not where we wanted to be in our lives –financially stable, starting a family, etc.  Atleast we have a house. I was so over looking at wedding things that I displaced myself from it and became a little depressed myself. As soon as the date was set and book I was happy, but a little numb to the wedding stuff.  However, when I bought my dress the wedding bug hit me. Then I have become addicted to the bee. 🙂  

I am hopeful for you and have a little understanding about your circumstance. Positive thoughts sent your way.  It seems like there is just a rough patch, and most people should give the wedding planning questions a rest because you circumstance is totally relatable.  Finances are why couples wait so long to get married.  Cheers to the wedding bug biting you again soon, and for your plans to be back on track.

Post # 12
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Rouquine:  gosh, I’m sorry! Leading up to our decision to elope I was feeling exactly the same way so I empathize with you. Frown

Stay on the boards! I like seeing your little pumpkin pie icon pop up on a thread!

Post # 14
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Rouquine:  even if you did ultimately decide to elope there are excitments or DIY things you could do along the way. I mean JuniperSage made eloping sound like an effing dream! I still am DIYing stuff and get excited over things like booking the hotel or deciding the sites we will see. 

Post # 15
2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Post # 16
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Rouquine:  I love having you around, and I’m sad that you’re sad. You always have such good input and I find you to be an asset here! 

I hope that you can figure everything out soon. 

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