(Closed) I work in an office not a DAYCARE!!!

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 2
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do you have an HR Department? Go there. Now.

They are seriously overstepping boundaries by touching you in any way. That is just not ok at all. It’s harassment, especially when you’ve asked them to stop, repetedly.

What crummy co-workers!

Post # 3
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

Daizy914:  I would report them to your manager though – they’re invading your personal space and making you uncomfortable. You’ve tried to handle it yourself and they haven’t listened, it’s time for your manager to give them a scare.

Post # 4
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Pretty much what PP post says. That’s harassment. Go to HR Department, directly there, You gave them fair warnings you told them not to and they laughed. Its unacceptable to be touched that way in a professional office setting.



Post # 5
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Wow I would have BLOWN UP. People suck. As PP’s have said, it needs to be reported. And you’ve done all you can do, you’ve asked them to stop and it obviously hasn’t helped. Time for it to be out of your hands. Honestly if something like that happened in my office, they would be fired in a heartbeat.

Post # 6
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yep, they are putting their hands on your body without your consent.  That is absolutely NOT ok.  Ever.  Especially from a grown-ass adult.

Post # 7
94 posts
Worker bee

Just…wow. These women have obvious boundary issues. I would absolutely go to the boss (be respectful!) and say that the coworkers have formed an inappropriate habit of grabbing your midsection. Then say it’s very uncomfortable, and they refuse to stop, even after multiple requests. Say that if a man were grabbing you in this manner, it would be considered sexual harassment. Say you don’t want trouble, but this must stop NOW. This is an HR issue, and the coworkers need to be called out.

Post # 8
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Sounds like assault and battery to me.

Post # 10
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Daizy914:  In that case, I would go to the manager now. It’s appalling that your designated HR officer acts that way.

Post # 11
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It sounds like you work for a small company. Normally, I’d say go straight to HR, but since that’s not an option, go to your manager. If your manager blows you off, go to the owners. It’s never ok to be groped and grabbed at work, even in a non sexual way.

Post # 12
2473 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Go to the manager now.  Like, right now.  This second.  If that doesn’t work, go higher.  And higher.  If you get to the top and no one still does anything, I’m pretty sure you can take legal action or alert the police.  This is 100% harassment and completely inappropriate.

If this happened where I work, they would be put on unpaid leave, and possibly fired.

Post # 13
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club

Rant & vent away!  This is totally unacceptable in any work place… unless you’re the Pillsbury Doughboy and from what I can see, you’re anything but that! (Just trying to make you smile in a crappy situation, hope that comes across that way!)

Since it sounds like you’re not going to make any progress with the “HR Director” but you’re not sure if you want to take it to the manager, I wanted to offer another option.  Now that things are not in the “heat of the moment”, I’d take approach them in a serious tone now.  Obviously, they all laughed it off before (rude.).  When things are calm and there is no violation of your personal space, I’d approach them as individuals and state something like, “I know that when you poke or grab me, you are joking around.  However, it makes me very uncomfortable and it needs to stop.  Please respect my personal space and do not do this again.”  And I’d document it… whether you write an email draft to yourself or a word document to save on your desktop, but make sure you put the date and time you spoke to each of them.  If it continues, take it to the manager and explain that you’ve asked them to stop (maybe bring that document you saved) and that she needs to step in now.  Best of luck!  Please let us know how it turns out.

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Post # 14
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That sounds completely unacceptable.  Those women are acting incredibly immature, and I can’t believe they think it’s OK to do that to you.  They sound like nasty high school bitches!  Apparently they haven’t quite grown up yet.  I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that.  I’d definitely tell your manager.  

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