Post # 1
I have read a lot of people post to me it is kind of disturbing. I know wedding planning and everything together is a lot especially if you are doing it yourself like I did. Maybe family is not acting like family or maybe your seamstress is not done in time. It just seems we forget the whole reason for marriage. I know we dream of our wedding day being magical and you supposed to have one shot to make it as we all dreamt. When I look at some of these post it made me realize that how exhausting it all can be. We all have some kind problems during the wedding drama but it is not a problem unless the man you love doesn’t show up . I thank god everyday for him and being patient with me during this time. Just remember Hive Marriage is about the love for each other not the hassle of wedding.
Post # 3
People don’t necessarily come post on here to complain, it’s just because they are looking for advice from people who they feel could relate and be objective. Yeah, it’s great when people post great things on here, but sometimes things aren’t great and this is a great place for them to post, as well, for the moral support or whatever they are looking for. If all everyone ever did was post about, how great they are, their day is, or whatever, honestly the boards would be a little boring and everyone would say the same things along the lines of, "Oh, how wonderful for you."
Post # 4
I understand how reading everyone’s concerns and questions could be overwhelming or a bit of a downer. However, the wedding planning process can be overwhelming at times, with the people who are usually your support system often contributing (even unintentionally) to the problem. Sites like this are great places for brides to look for support, advice, and inspiration. I do not think of this as a place where you read about problems, but where you read all the solutions people have to offer. Many of us will only have one wedding, so we find that having a forum where we can relate with others who have gone through or are going through this process is very helpful. I think the vast majority of us do love our FI/DH/DWs, are delighted to be marrying them, and are excited about spending the rest of our lives with that special someone, but we are also confronted with planning the biggest (and most expensive) party we have ever given. Thanks for reminding us of the important part of this process, but please understand why we often discuss party details.
Post # 5
I understand what you are saying LisaLee, but I don’t think that the ladies that come here and post, asking for suggestions and advice forget for a second what marriage is really about. We come here because mostly everyone here is getting married or is married already, what better advice than from someone who knows exactly what your are talking about? Our personal friends and family dont want to be bored with wedding talk 24/7, so we take it to people who are thinking wedding 24/7. Sure, some posts are a little outrages, like the ones that complained about not enough expensive gifts received, but those are minimal.
I see weddingbee as a comunity where I can come and ask away and someone out there will have great advice and opinions. Maybe I’m looking for something and someone out there knows exactly where I can get it!. But really, even though we come here often times frustrated with our family, our gocco or whatever else is not going as planned, I never forget that I am completely happy and grateful to marry the love of my life!
Post # 6
Ditto Babesilva…. the "disturbing" posts are usually just vents because we really don’t have anyone else to talk to about it. We all over-react sometimes. I love weddingbee because if you read the comments on these posts, most of the Bees politely suggest a reality check with out being harsh.