(Closed) I would never consider myself a Bridezilla, but..

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 5
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I wish I could help in some way. Sending you warm hugs and lots of kind thoughts your way. I will be praying that you find terrific people to be “family” with.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

I’ve read a few of your previous posts, and I’m really sorry that you’re in this position right now. It does stink to have family make empty promises to you and not come through on them. I think at this point, you need to stop relying on his parents to do things for you. 

I know you said that we don’t know the whole story, but we can’t offer much helpful advice unless you tell us the whole story. All I got from your last post is that his parents were not only supposed to help you with paying for the wedding, but also help to pay for the furniture in your appartment. Someone in that post mentioned that you shouldn’t have been planning a wedding before you weren’t living on your own. Without knowing every detail of what happened, I have to agree with that.

Life throws you huge curveballs all the time, and you can’t always depend on your family to bail you out when those things happen. I know that right now all you want to do is be married and your Fiance wants a big wedding, but at this point, I don’t think that’s an option unless you postpone the wedding in order to get yourselves back on your feet. It’s unfortunate that your Fiance lost his job, but you can’t continue with the full-fledged big wedding as if he didn’t. And though his family offered you to live with them to save on costs, you can’t expect them to be able to do that forever, especially if their own marriage is in turmoil. 

Again, I’m only commenting on the things you’ve shared, so I don’t know the whole story of why you’re so upset with his parents. What I do know is that you need to stop relying on them; otherwise, you’re going to be disappointed time after time. 

Post # 7
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1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I am so sorry all this is happening to you ๐Ÿ™ I don’t know what to tell you except that I think it’s a good decision for you guys to elope. The important thing is that you will be married to the person you love most! If his mom is having a hissy fit about the deposit, she can suck it. Once you give someone money, you really have no control on what happens with it. I hope everything works out for you and you guys get over this hurdle!

Post # 8
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1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry you’re going through this. That sounds so frustrating and disappointing. I’m glad you guys decided to just go and do it on your own. It’s the marriage that matters, not the wedding.

Post # 9
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hang in there… remember the positive things in your life- you have a man whom you love and want to spend your life with (and he feels the same way ๐Ÿ™‚ ), you are together and you’ll get through this difficult time together.

Post # 10
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2693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

So sorry you’re going through this ๐Ÿ™ It’s a good and comforting perspective you have, though, saying all you want is to be married to your Fiance.  In the end, that’s what you’ll have and at the very least (which I know is little consolation during the sad, down times like now) you’re with the love of your live and have both committed to a life together.  IMO, there’s nothing more special than being a wife to the man you love more than anything.

Post # 12
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@Rouquine: Anytime…and I’m sure you know based on how many times your poor Fiance has been laid off. Try to keep your chin up and know that you have each other. It’s the one thing that my Darling Husband and I always say. For how unlucky we are in certain aspects of our lives, the one part that shines through like nothing else is the fact that we’re a team and have each other. In our 4 years of marriage, those curveballs have only made us a stronger unit. 

Thank goodness for our significant others :o) 

Post # 13
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5762 posts
Bee Keeper

@Rouquine: If you decide to have something locally, I have plenty of things left from our two weddings you are more than welcome to use /have. Things may change around for you two, so holler if you need help!

Post # 15
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Im sorry you are going through that ๐Ÿ™  I do have one tip I looked into a cruise wedding for my friend and there are crazy fees assocaited with it..however you could do a cruise from NJ to Florida.. get off the ship in florida..get married there and then continue the cruise on..I crused from NYC to Florida and then the bahamas in February of this year for about $600 total for each of us.  Good luck. Im sure your sad your gonna miss the big celebration you were planning..but theres no saying you cant do it later.. Two of my friends did that.. they got married a small ceremony then saved and saved and a few yeras later had a big wedding

Post # 16
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276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Rouquine: I’ve been following your posts and I SO want you to have the wedding you’ve been working so hard for! I’m going to keep praying for you and your family! Things will get better I’m sure!

No matter where you get married, you and your Fiance will be together and it will be special!

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