I wrote a thing.

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Love this, girl. We have the opposite problem, recurrent miscarriage, but the end result of not having a baby is the same and I teared up reading about your experience.

<3

Post # 17
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660 posts
Busy bee

i needed this. thank you.

we’re on month 14 with unexplained infertility and 2 chemical pregnancies, and 2 failed IUIs. we’re onto IVF after this cycle, and it’s made me a sensitive, blubbering, inconsolable mess. celebrating friends & family’s babies while wondering why it wasn’t happening for us, wondering why it’s so easy for “everyone else” and why two people who would make great parents are having to work so hard for something that should be so easy. or at least, that’s what they scared me with in high school.

i’m blessed to have hugely supportive friends and family but the struggle has been real and this totally captures the journey. a friend who went through IVF 3x told me i should start seeking out support groups, or at least check out an online forum. she was so right.

not being able to have what you need, and no control over it, is incredibly frustrating. but you aren’t alone. hang in there, and definitely see a specialist if you haven’t already. best of luck to you! 

Post # 19
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

This was really nice. I haven’t gone through anything like this myself but it made me teary eyed reading it. I’m planning to TTC soon and I’d guess for a lot of people who pregnancy doesn’t just happen to on accident and who go into it intentionally, there’s always something in the back of your mind wondering what the journey will be like, will it be easy or difficult, or even successful? It’s very enlightening to hear firsthand all of the emotions, and I’m sure everybody knows several women/couples who have gone through this even if those people acted like everything was fine, and you would never know aside from the few comments here and there that make you slowly realize they want something so bad that they can’t have. Best of luck to you!

Post # 21
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Worker bee

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Dr_dazzle :  Thank you for writing this. I am seeing a fertility specialist this December, as I’m having ovulation and cysts issues. I’ve said this on some of the POAS boards and I will say it again here- no one ever tells you how vulnerable TTC is. When people find out you’re TTC they offer all kinds of advice that just isn’t helpful. The online announcements get to you and you begin to worry if you’re crazy for feeling so emotional when you look at them, and wondering ‘what if’ or ‘when will it be my turn?’ I want you to know that I am with you and that you are not alone. Infertility is a bitch but you and I will overcome it. 

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