(Closed) Iam so anxious and do not want to lose my best friend :/

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
800 posts
Busy bee

Would your friend be willing to share the title? I’ve seen a few brides who have two maids of honor. That way no one is upset or hurt. 

Post # 3
1334 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

It’s your choice, not your mom’s.  Do what makes you happy!  You can always have 2 MOHs.  If you decide to choose your sister, I’m sure your friend will understand.  Who do you think would do a better job and is more organized?  Who can you depend on?  

Post # 4
2268 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

LoveBlossom14:  It’s your choice. I have two MOHs and so far, it’s working out fine. I think because you already asked your friend, it would be really awful to revoke the title. At the same time, I can’t imagine her being upset if you had her and your sister as co-MOHs. When one of my BFFs was disappointed that I didn’t make her a Maid/Matron of Honor and that I would clearly be hers, I was sort of shocked that she wouldn’t have chosen her sister for the role. 

Post # 5
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If you are happy with both of them filling the position do that. Thats how I did. My best friend is like a sister to me and has been since we were kids. I have an older sister that I also wanted to fill the position. They shared the role and it worked out great. I am so happy I chose to do it that way.

Post # 6
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton

I agree with PPs – I’d have them share the title so you don’t have to risk hurt feelings or make a tough choice. I didn’t want to pick between my two sisters, so they are splitting the Maid/Matron of Honor position and it is working out fine so far. 

Post # 7
93 posts
Worker bee

Are either of these ladies married already? If so you could always do a Maid and Matron of Honor.  I did that in my first wedding so both of my sisters could be MOH’s, worked out perfectly fine.

Post # 8
2347 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

LoveBlossom14:  I have a maid of honor and a man of honor.  There was absolutely no way I could choose one of the other, so it is what it is!  

Post # 9
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Your mom shouldn’t be dictating who is in your wedding and has what role. It’s your wedding, not hers.<br /><br />At the end of the day, it’s acceptable to have two maids of honor.

Post # 10
2445 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had three girls: a Matron of Honor and two Maids of Honor. The two Maids were my bff and my sister. It worked out because my sister was finishing up her last year at college out of state and could not really help out or be too involved like my bff was. But I still wanted her to have the title. No one’s feelings were hurt.

Post # 11
6529 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

LoveBlossom14:  have them both be a maid of honor, there is no rule that you can only have one. 

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