Post # 1
Our caterer just doesn’t get it! Our invitations say “Wine and cheese reception to follow” which doesn’t mean literally ONLY appetizers that include cheese. We’re vegans ourselves and have a number of friends with dairy allergies. When we rec’d the menu/contract it had EIGHT cheese items. EIGHT?! We cut it down to two cheese things and 3 non-cheese things (if you include nuts on that list). Our reception is only three hours long and we’re serving cake.
Her response? “If I were to cut something, it would be the olive tapenade and nuts. That would put more focus on cheese.”
Post # 3
Maybe she thinks by you wording is at a wine and cheese reception and not wine & hors d’ oeuvres reception you really just did want different cheeses & crackers. Have you expressed to her what you want, other than cutting out items? I would contact your caterer and talk to them about exactly what you are looking for so their is no confusion on either end.
Post # 4
It sounds like you’ve got some miscommunication going on with your caterer. How specific were you when you originally designed the menu? If I saw “wine and cheese reception” I would assume that the focus would be on cheese, with other things taking a backseat to that. I think you need to explicitly lay out what you want or else she’s just going to go with the “wine and cheese” concept maybe a bit more literally than you intended.
Post # 5
Yeah … I as well would assume you wanted plenty of cheese items if you specified it was a “wine and cheese” reception.
I think you just need to be more clear in your communications with your caterer, and let her know that while you said “wine and cheese” you really were intending for “wind and hors d’oeuvres”.
Post # 6
I’m sorry. Am I a horrible person because your caterer’s response mad me giggle?
Post # 7
I know when you wrote this you were upset, but if you look at her response it is kind of comical! The lady just doesn’t get it 🙂
I think you should tell her exactly what you want. Tell her you want more of a tapas style reception with tons of different options. I imagine you are having some sort of cheese/fruit/cracker spread right? Then toss in other finger food options.
Spell it out for her! Less cheese & more substance. Tell her you aren’t married to the idea of only wine & cheese options! Good luck!
Post # 8
Coming from a place where cheese can be a BIG BIG deal, I think she just doesn’t realize what you’re going for. Poor lady. If necessary, tell her you’ve “changed your mind.” It might make it easier on her.