(Closed) I'd be so mad if..

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Do you know for a fact that every detail is in fact the same? That she didn’t change something? There are a lot of rings out there that look similar.

Case in point, my ring and wedding bands were 100% custom made down to the last detail but there is another bee (finally!) that has a similar but not identical ring.That doesn’t mean mine wasn’t custom made.

Post # 4
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@erinbacher:  I agree I would be pretty upset about if they told me it was one of kind..

Post # 5
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have two friends that are engaged and their ring was “custom made.”  They look exactly like what I’ve seen in jewelry stores.

Post # 6
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

That’s what I always wonder about custom pieces. Even here on WB I’ve seen a few “CUSTOM ring!” posts, and for the most part they look totally average and not one-of-a-kind at all (Unless it’s a flowery design, or something super modern). Maybe the lady got the head raised or lowered, or a surprise diamond put in? Then I guess it would be custom, right?


Post # 7
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@GoldfishPie:   That is a good point.

My custom ring doesn’t have any really out of the box ideas but it is as I said custom. We couldn’t find any larger center stone oval halos and I ended up wanting a twisted shank so we threw that in too. Again, all typical ideas but put them together and there wasn’t a ring out there available. So custom doesn’t have to be outlandish or over the top it might just be a variation of what is already on the market.

Post # 8
6355 posts
Bee Keeper

Maybe it was a “great minds think alike” thing. Many rings look superficially similar, but if you have an eye for certain elements, those tiny variations can make all the difference. Even a fraction of an mm of thickness at a certain point, or a slightly different angle on a curve, can result in a different look and “feel,” to the wearer/person really interested in that ring, but at a causal glance, another person who is less interested might think “they’re identical.”

Then again, the person my have been lied to, but if it was custom designed, weren’t they the ones that specified the design?

Post # 9
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I really wanted a ring that I could pick out of a lineup. Not the same (albeit gorgeous) solitare with halo that I see on everyone at work. I decided to go with a 1920s OEC estate piece that I LOVE. I searched all around the country for a the perfect ring and Fiance just *happened* to have a business trip 1000 miles away in this city. In my search I found rings with similar elements, but not exactly like this one (my hand engraving is soooo pretty). 

That all being said, I would be really disappointed if I met someone with my exact same ring. Super crushed.

Post # 10
5448 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I know that for me it would be almost impossible to tell custom from mass produced. Additionally, what one jeweler makes custom might be standard for another maker, so the ring might actually be custom but look identical to another brand’s style.

And when push comes to shove, there are only so many ways to style metal and stones in a ring. Anything anyone considers “custom” was probably made by someone in the past, even if they’ve never seen it. There are very few “new” ideas in rings. And while a ring might be custom made to have a certain number of stones (because of the significance of that number or what-not), or some other small detail, the wearer has to realize that their ring WILL look just like someone else’s because no one else will see the hidden stone or count the number of stones.

In the technical sense, my ring was “custom”. Why? because it was made in a metal it didn’t originally come in. Does that make it truly “custom” in my eyes and do I expect that anyone else would notice? Of course not. Few other people are as obsessed with our jewelry as we are. 

Post # 11
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Being a gal with large fingers to me custom made also meant getting it made for my finger (not resized) and making it comfort fit (rounded in the inside) and cutting out metal on the sides. small things that aren’t visible for a lot of people but made a lot of difference to me. 

It also meant selecting every stone. In NZ u generally don’t see settings that are D-F, VS unless u go down the custom route

Post # 12
2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Rule #1 of “custom”


Picking a band, picking a basket, and picking a diamond and assembling them all together to make a ring does NOT a custom ring make. You’re just picking from machine fabbed columns A, B & C.


When that ring designed from scratch, hand carved from wax and cast, and finished by an artist…now THAT’s a custom ring in my eyes.


Either way, the result will probably be gorgeous. Some ppl like perfection (think Tacori) and some ppl like that artist’s touch (think Laurie Sarah).

ETA: I’d be pretty upset if I saw someone out there with my exact same custom ring, but I don’t think that will happen.







Post # 13
4476 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This a problem on Etsy.  There are a some vendors that sell “custom one-of-a-kind”  settings.  In reality they’re selling Chinese settings they bought for half the price.  A quick ebay search can usually confirm this.  It sucks that Etsy doesn’t really police this, because it screws over the Jewelers who actually do custom work.


Post # 14
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I have a friend who thinks her ring was custom made…. all he did was pick the diamond from a selection at the store!

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