(Closed) I'd like a bridal shower but I dont want to make it a requirement…help!!

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Osoluvely30:  …just connect the friend with your bridal party, don’t be the middle man and let them tell her directly, I’m sure they’re planning something, and just don’t want to bother you.

Post # 4
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

So two things – First, you really can’t tell someone to have a bridal shower for you without being rude. Second, I actually think your friend who wants to have a Mary Kay party at your shower is being really rude and pushy. It’s a shower, not an opportunity for her to sell Mary Kay. That would be really awkward for guests who are there to celebrate you. They shouldn’t be put in a position where they feel like they have to buy Mary Kay. 

Post # 5
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Osoluvely30: A Mary Kay party could completely take over your shower!  Just tell her you have nothing to do with the planning, or take her contact info and say you’ll pass it on. 

Post # 6
2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It’s your sister of course you should just ask her. Maybe not the specifics but at least the date, time, and place!

Post # 8
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

AlliRae has it right.  It’s rude to ask for a shower so you should not ask about when it is.  A shower is something that someone offers to throw for you.  If no one offers, you don’t get one.  And having a Mary Kay party combined would be rude also.  Your guests are there to honor you.  There should be no selling of any kind at an event like that.

Post # 9
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@AlliRae:  +1!!!

Post # 10
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If i went to a shower and someone was selling Mary Kay, I would be pissed. 

Post # 12
1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I agree with others on the NO Mary Kay consultant! I’ve been roped into these things where a Mary Kay (or other) consultant just wanted to “do free makeovers” or whatever, but then there’s always a sales pitch. It’s so awkward when you really have no intentions to buy! If you have a shower, your friends & family want to celebrate YOU, not buy beauty products.

Post # 15
3 posts
  • Wedding: December 1993


I have to agree with this comment. I think it is terribly rude for your friend to even suggest having a Mary Kay party associated with a bridal shower.

I wouldn’t put her in touch with your sister or whoever you think might be organizing one for you. Just tell your friend that you are not taking part in any plans adn will leave it up to others and also, perhaps a Mary Kay party could be organized in the months to follow your wedding…or not at all if you don’t want one.


I hope you have a great bridal shower.


Deb M


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