Post # 1
I keep thinking of the part of Mr. Bee’s plan where he recommends reducing the stress of the money element of the engagement equation(asking for a CZ rather than a diamond, etc.) and remembered the other day on CraigsList seeing the most beautiful engagement ring. I went and looked up the ring on the designer’s website, and found that the Craigslist price was 60% less.
I can understand balking at the idea of receiving a “used” ring, but remember this:
most jewelers have a return window–anywhere from 2 weeks to 30 days, maybe more. You don’t really have a way of knowing if someone bought and then returned your ring. Moreover, it’s unlikely that no one else has tried on your ring in store.
I know that I thought, at first, that I would never want a ring someone else may have worn. But when I thought about it, I realized I could get a much nicer ring at a fraction of the cost. They have every kind of ring imaginable, and sellers generally insist on meeting at a jewelry store to do the sale/give you an opportunity to inspect the ring and have it tested, and most show authenticity certificates with the picture of the ring.
This idea may not work for everybody, but it might help!
Post # 3
I would have no problem wearing a ring someone else worn. God think of the memories, it holds. If its vintage, it would be great fun to think of what women wore the ring, and how the man proposed. God, it makes me all swoony thinking of it. Great idea! I would come up with such crazy stories, star crossed lovers, forbidden love. But then I am a big dork.
Post # 4
Also think about buying a stone and setting seperatly. You can actually buy a lower quality stone and save bundles. If you go with a stone that has a good color but more inclusions you can hide those by choosing a “bulky” setting that will mask those.
Post # 5
look into antiques!! they are far less expensive than a new ring, and absolutely exquisite in design. you can find plain ones too, but for me, i’ve always wanted an antique because of the workmanship – i love detail and unique, vintage things. but primarily because the are very reasonably priced – i knew i wanted a diamond, but didn’t want my FH to spend the standard 3 mos salary on a ring. and (because of the “blood diamond” issues), antiques are a little more enviro/ethically friendly. i’m happy to send you some links if you’re interested, including the one my FH got my ring from.
Post # 6
ps – if the return issue bothers you, you can almost always work something out, particularly with an online pruchase. my advice is to have an independent appraiser lined up so either the jeweler can ship your ring directly to the appraiser, or once you get the ring, you can take it to have it appraised and if your person’s assessment doesn’t match up with the jeweler’s assessment/specs, you can send it right back.
Post # 7
I have no problem if my diamonds belonged to somebody else. In fact, after I divorced I sold my solitaire and setting. It was truly gorgeous and since wearing it would make me feel sad, I thought it might be both good for me (financially) and good for somebody else (if it could make another bride happy) if I sold it.
somebody somewhere got a gorgeous ring. And I hope she is very happy with it!
So no, it’s your life, and diamonds have been around for millions of years. We won’t be the last to hold these lovely gems in our hands, they will definitely find their way hopefully to somebody else at sometime in the future. That’s the beauty of it.