“Ideal” is a unique word.
It can mean a lot of things in my mind.
Personally, I had my first child around that timeframe (under 25) and I can therefore see WHY this might be perceived to be ideal
1- The younger you are the more fertile you are (generally speaking)
2- The younger you are the more healthy / fit you are (generally speaking)
Kids take a TON of energy… and money
When I had my BA and got married not long after I was considered fairly well educated, and had a decent job.
My kids grew, my career did too.
I had more disposible income (well we both did) by the time the kids needed more things in life / were more expensive … their teens our late 30s
And by the time that College / Uni called for them we were are the peak of our careers (40s & 50s)
So all that makes sense
Then they were out of the house and My Ex and I would have been mid to late 40s
So we could enjoy… Good Health – Good Jobs – Good Income – Low to No Debt
Means that we could have enjoyed our lives for the next many years leading up to Retirement (45 to 65)… Investing for Retirement – Nice Trips / Vacations etc
All of these things make having kids in your 20s ideal indeed
Now wether all goes to plan… well that is a shot in the dark eh
Be it completing an education – finding a right mate – getting a good job – getting pregnant when you wan to – the economy etc
Lots of things can skew the mix
But still I do see where the idea that this might be “ideal” comes from
Even now, altho I do get that women are waiting longer (good thing in that they know themselves better)…
I still believe that the “ideal” time is in one’s 20s vs 30s…
I read the WBee Boards and see all the various issues that women face now, and I honestly some days shake my head. The world has changed drastically in the last 30 years.
Back in the 1980s when we were having kids, we just “got” pregnant… it wasn’t a huge planned thing. We were young we were fertile. Not so much now that more and more women are in their 30s. Truth is fertility is a something that slips away over time… no where is this more evident to me than right here on WBee when I read all the posts by women trying to conceive…
Older more knowledgeable, educated, mature.. etc these are good things. But the trade off in regards to having problems having kids (or worse yet going without) breaks my heart.