(Closed) Ideal age to have first baby?

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: which age?

    younger than 20








    over 34

  • Post # 4
    3525 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I’ve always thought 25. Don’t ask me why. My plan is to have all of my kids (1-2) between 25 and 30.

    Post # 5
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MissGeeBee:  I live in a mid sized city (about 500,000 people), not sure if really makes a difference though.

    I am currently 25 1/2. My ideal age is between 30 and 32. I have finished my college degree, and have been working full time 3 1/2 years. But I would like to establish myself more in my career and we would like to travel more, save more money and enjoy our 20’s as a couple. Though we have been together for over 10 years, we are in no rush to start having children.

    Post # 6
    6582 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I had 2 daughters at 26 and 34.  I think 26 to 28 is a good age.

    Post # 7
    5229 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Anytime in your late 20’s, I suppose. You know yourself (hopefully) and you’re still young enough to have lots of time to have lots of babies if you want.

    Post # 8
    1838 posts
    Buzzing bee

    The ideal age is in the twenties, for many reasons, not the least of which are the biological and reproductive advantages.

    Early, mid, or late twenties, doesn’t really matter which. 

    Post # 9
    7941 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I didn’t vote because there are so many circumstances that make it ideal and those circumstances of course make it up to the individual. I always wanted to wait until I was 33 (no idea why). I am pregnant now and will be 31 when I deliver our first child. Our lives are amazing and we are financially and emotionally ready to have a child at this time, I am glad that we waited but didn’t wait any longer. 

    Post # 10
    3273 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I think 25, but it will more likely be 28-30 for me since I’m 25 and not pg or ttc


    Post # 11
    5191 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    There is no such thing as an “ideal age”. It’s whenever you have enough money to pay the bills, save for retirement, and pay for a baby. It’s whenever you have the strong desire for the responsibilities of raising a child. It’s whenever you would rather stay home with your SO and kids than go out with friends. it’s whenever you are ready to commit your life to the stress that comes with being responsible for shaping the future of a human being. It’s ALL of those thing and more, and those factors come together at different times for different people.

    Post # 12
    3146 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    A thread like this gets started every few months and never ends well. 

    There is no “perfect” time – everyone’s right age is different. I’m 39 and almost 11 weeks pregnnant with my first kid. Is this when I wanted to have a baby? No, but it’s when I met the right person, got married, and conceived. So it’s perfect. 

    there are so many variables and so many different people/relationships, you can’t generalize it


    Post # 13
    3954 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’d say it’s when you’ve finished school, are happily married and have been with your partner for at least 5 years, have debts paid off and some money saved for emergencies, have stable jobs and health insurance, are responsible enough, and feel ready! I would think this happens for most people around 30, which is when I would like to have my first.

    Post # 14
    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    For me personally, 34 sounds like the best number. I would love to wait until 35 or 36 even but if there happen to be any unexpected issues, I guess we would like to leave a bit of time to deal with anything that comes up.

    Most of our friends don’t have kids yet, so we don’t really have a sense of urgency about it at this stage.

    Post # 15
    1776 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t really think there is an ideal age. Just whenever someone feels ready to be a parent!

    DH and I will be TTCing this summer. He is 29 and I am 28. 

    Post # 16
    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think this thread should ask what age each bee thinks they will be ready for a baby rather than an “ideal” age, since everyone has different opinions. As for myself, I think between 28-30 will be a good time for me to start a family. 

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