(Closed) Ideal age to have first baby?

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: which age?

    younger than 20

    20-22

    22-24

    24-26

    26-28

    28-30

    30-32

    32-34

    over 34

  • Post # 32
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wanted to be 27 when I had my first child. It seemed the perfect age.  My max age was 31, then 33.  At 35, I’ll be getting married in less than 4 months & I hope to conceive sometime this summer.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

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    @bmo88:  I agree, 100 percent. I’d MUCH rather wait until my late 20’s and into my 30’s, be financially stable and have a good amount of savings set aside for emergency situations when we have children so they can live a comfortable life and we don’t have to live in fear that something might go wrong and we won’t be able to pay for it  or that we won’t be able to take family vacations because we can’t afford it!

     

     

     

    Post # 34
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    23-26 is ideal for first child IMO.

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I would like to be pregnant before I turn 30 and be done by 35.

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @MissGeeBee:  I answered for myself. For me, personally, the ideal age is 26-28 for a first baby – we should be at least trying for a baby by the time I’m 28 if our plan works out. Fiance and I both agree we want to be done having kids before I’m 35. For everyone else? Beats me. I don’t know their situations, so I honestly can’t say.

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

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    @bmo88:  Yea – I still say early twenties Smile

    I also stated that ideally it’s early twenties WITH some money.  So the situation you described isn’t really what I was talking about.  For me, I’d prefer early twenties.  But that times has passed……

    Post # 39
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Oldtimer here…

    The YOUNGER the better… (well within reason **)

    The main reasons are… physical.

    First it is usually a lot easier to get pregnant… and second your body will “spring back” a lot faster / easier as well.

    PLUS, Kids take a TON of energy & patience.  Something that people have a lot more of the younger they are.

    My Ex and I had our kids our 20s… and it was great, young enough to chase em down as toddlers… and also be fit & active with them as they grew (Camping – Waterskiing – Skating – Skiing etc)

    Meant that by the time they were off to College & Uni… we were in our mid to late 40s, and still had plenty of energy for ourselves too…

    ** The other key factor is finances.  It is easier to be somewhat broke when your kids are little than when they are older.

    By the time College / Uni came around we were in the midst of our well established careers and making good money… so were able to help out etc.

    By the time all that was done with, we were in our PRIME Earning Years and have no large commitments financially (ie Mortgage paid off)… so the bulk of money could be / can be put away for Retirement.

    All important things to consider.

    PS… When I was having kids, I had a “done date”… when I said I would not consider having any more kids.  For me that was 35… as I thought that was about as far as I wanted to extend myself 20+ years into the future with kids at home (ie 55).  Now that I am in my mid 50s, I would have to say, that was definitely the top end of that range… I couldn’t imagine having a 20 year old.  I’ve majorly enjoyed my 50s not having teenagers or young adults to worry about

     

     

    Post # 40
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    For me personally, ideal age is 29 or 30.

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I guess I would say late twenties, even though I personally have missed the boat on that one being 29 right now.

    I feel early twenties was too young, I was still in school, then grad school, I was 24 almost 25 by that time and just starting out in the job market. By the time I had al full time job WITH good benefits I was 26..and single. But I feel like from 26 and up would have been a good time had the circumstances worked out. I was stable (job + benefits), healthy, etc.

    Now I if we do have kids I will be in my 30s.

    Post # 42
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I always wanted to be a young mom, and was hoping to have kids by 24-26, so that’s what I chose. However, that’s not how life worked out and that’s ok!! I’m 28 now, we have just started TTC. Hopefully a LO will arrive right around my 29th birthday or soon after. That’s still young in my book, but now I know myself much better, I’m more patient and understanding, and I’m more ready. Not to mention I didn’t have the right man until the last few years! So now is good for me! 😉

    Post # 43
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I voted 28-30 for “ideal” age, but I’m 30 now and still don’t feel ready to TTC yet.

    Post # 44
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @MissGeeBee:  IMO the ideal age is in the 20’s. However, the general ideal age isn’t the same as the individual realistic age. People need to be financially, emotionally and physically ready to have a child and for some that’s at age 20 and for other that’s at 35, etc.

     

    I am fortunate enough to be able and ready to have a child in the earlier category (24-26), and I personally probably wouldn’t consider having a child in my 30’s and beyond because that is too old for me, but for someone else that could be the age where they start considering having a child.

     

    In short, I think the ‘ideal’ age is subjective.

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I picked 28-30, but mostly I think 26-35 is pretty ideal (depends on how many kids you want too).

    For me it wasn’t until 30!  I wanted to thoroughly enjoy my 20s without having something tying me down that much.

    Post # 46
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    Busy Beekeeper

    I’m 42 and never imagined that I wouldn’t be a mom yet. If I had to do it over, I absolutely would have prefered to have started to have a child in my 26-28 range.

    Ideally, by then you are hopefully done with your education; emotionally ready for the responsiblity; have lived on your own and traveled; and early enough in your career that you can weather the first few years of parenthood.

    I look at my SIL who has a child going off to college next year (and two younger sibllings) and we are around the same age. She’s almost done where as I haven’t started. But I know comparison is this area is impossible. Because she wasn’t emotionally ready for her kids AT ALL. She’s just now becoming the “mom” that those kids deserved IMO. So this is something that is very individual. 

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    @This Time Round:  I’ve majorly enjoyed my 50s not having teenagers or young adults to worry about

    That’s what I’m faced with now. Asking myself do I really want to live my later years deadling with those horomones and attitudes. I’m exhausted thinking about it. But who knows. 

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