(Closed) Ideal age to have first baby?

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: which age?

    younger than 20

    20-22

    22-24

    24-26

    26-28

    28-30

    30-32

    32-34

    over 34

  • Post # 47
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    Busy bee

    @MissGeeBee:  LOL Late 20’s or early 30’s… who wants to give up all their freedom in their 20’s that sounds terrible!! Ugh! 

    Once you have babies it’s all over… No more thinking about what you want to do or where you want to go, your #1 Priority is your BABY!!  Why would anyone want to rush that?

    Post # 48
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    For me and DH, now was the perfect time.  I am 24 and he is 31.  We have traveled (Spain, Italy, France, England, Mexico, Costa Rica, Hawaii), we have savings, and we have a house.  Ideally, I would have become pregnant slightly earlier in order to have my baby in the summer of 2014 instead of in September 2014, so I could start law school.  Now, I will defer law school a year to start in 2015.  Postponing school is fine, because it gives us another year to save and I have great maternity benefits at my current job.

    We both felt it would be easier to have a baby while I am in school because I would have a flexible schedule.  Also, when I graduate school and find a job, I would want to work for 2-3 years to establish credibility before TTC.  I would be 30 and he would be 37, and that was too late for us.  

     

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    This is a hard question because it’s SO different for everyone. I think mid-late 20’s were ideal in my situation. I had my first at 26. We hope to have our second (and last) when I’m 28. We’re financially stable and did the travel/party thing already.

     

     

     

    Post # 50
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    Honey bee

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    @FleeSircus:  My parents had a solid, reliable income. So they had “some” money, depending on what you are considering as “some.” It just wasn’t enough for three kids and retirement/savings. It could definitely have been more ideal circumstances, but given the state of the economy, it is unlikely for most early 20’s couples to have solid, stable incomes. DH and I are 25 and 27, and we make twice the local household income (and 3 times what my parents made at our ages). Though we could afford a child easily, we still recognize the benefit of having a child near 30 because of likeliness to increase our income/financial stability.

    But clearly, every situation is different and ideal for one couple is not ideal for another couple.

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee

    well i had my first child at 22 (2 months before my 23rd birthday) My doctor actually told me that was a very good age to start having children. I do think there is a such thing as being to young and to old.

    Post # 52
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club

    I’m glad I had my boy at 22. I’m young, fit, and healthy so I was able to bounce back pretty quick and my body coped extremely well with labour. I’ve already travelled overseas and seen a good amount of my home country and having my baby sooner rather than later means he’ll get to enjoy his grandparents for longer. The only thing I’d change is maybe it would have been nice to put a deposit on a house first rather than raising him in a rental – but that time will come.

    Post # 53
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Assuming all factors conducive to childrearing are in place (responsibility, financial/relational stability, etc), I’d say mid to late 20s. Enough time to live a little but still young enough to have energy and be at peak fertility.

    Post # 54
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Between 22 and 24. At least for us. We’re financially comfortable, both got decent jobs. We’ve been upgrading our furniture and everything’s been looking good for us. Now’s as good a time as any 🙂

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