- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
People are going to bring you gifts no matter what, personally I would just suck it up put a smile on your face and say thank you and leave it at that. Generally registery’s are just guides so no matter what you want or do people will do or buy what they want.
We’re also doing the KISS route when it comes to baby items. I totally think it’s the way to go.
But here’s the thing– for baby showers, although I know some of the bees have had showers where people actually pay attention to the parents’ desires and registries, I have personally never seen that happen. Most of the gifts will be baby clothes. TONS of clothes. People like to buy & give things they can coo over. And for us, it worked out ok because baby clothes don’t take up too much space. We put the newborn & 3 month things on a shelf, and the rest is in a vacuum bag on another shelf, with his sleep sacks/swaddlers/sleepgowns. We’ll rotate out of the vacuum bag as he grows.
I’m all for having another registry or a different kind of shower if you want to, but keep in mind that most people will entirely ignore it.
If you have a baby shower people will get you stuff. The only way to avoid that is to not have a baby shower.
But….a baby shower isn’t that bad. I’m pretty similar to you, trying to dejunkify the house and get panicked when I see the piles and piles of toys at other people’s houses. Babies need stuff though. From what I’ve seen people will get you little odds and ends and most of it is useful, if you think you don’t need 15 burp cloths, don’t stress, it will be great to have them. And if you’re not using them as burp cloths there’s other stuff you can use them for.
When people ask you what you need have ideas in mind and be honest about what you don’t want, even though I had a registry people still asked. Don’t feel bad about telling, I didn’t have a registry for my wedding because I felt bad but people will get new babies stuff even if you don’t have a shower so have ideas in mind to tell people. Also get your parents to know what you need and don’t need since people might ask them as well.
Thanks, girls… you are so right. I am totally overthinking this. I am just going to register for the things I want and leave it at that. It might not be much, and I might end up with extra stuff, but we can tackle that issue when it comes. Thanks for the feedback!
I would also register for more than you “want” since you’re going to have a large group. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with being able to take back a gift and get store credit for down the road but if you don’t register for enough items then you’ll end up with crap that didn’t come with a gift reciept, you don’t want and you can’t return.
I did register for lots of things and people barely bought off registry, they all want to pick out cute baby things! So really I feel like no matter what you’ll get lots of gifts, especially with that big of a guest list.
There are websites that you can register for cloth diapers. I did that, and nobody bought any. Not one! They’re $25 for one diaper and I feel like people felt weird buying us just one or two diapers, even though I would have loved them!
I think your best bet is the first idea, bring their favorite book. With that may come giftcards, which would be a good thing. I think giftcards are ideal, they’ll be used when you need to use them on what you truly need. But I do think, even though your intentions are good, that this might be a bit off putting to some of your guests. People LOVE to buy gifts for babies and mommy’s-to-be. I can say with certainty that you will probably end up returning/exchanging/donating things, regardless of your efforts. I only put the things we’d really need on our registry. We got a bunch of stuff we’d never use, kinda annoying. We were also asked, several times, to add more to the registry as they didn’t really love what was left- strange right?
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