(Closed) Ideas instead of the candle/sand ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Anniebo: I read about a really neat ceremony recently where they passed a ribbon through the aisles of the crowd, so that it connected everyone, and then sent the rings along the ribbon to be blessed by everyone. It sort of gives the “connected” vibe you were going for, and looked really cool in the photographs. You could do some readings while the rings are being passed around. Once the ceremony was over, the crowd lifted up the ribbon for the bride and groom to walk underneath.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Once, I went to a wedding where they passed the rings around to every guest as they blessed it!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We did the wine box/love letter ceremony and we LOVED it.  I was searching for a ceremony too, but it was difficult to find one that my husband liked.  But when I told him about this, he was instantly excited.  It’s really a beautiful ceremony.  My husband built the box himself, we went shopping for wine together (got a bottle that will be good in 25 years–in case we can wait that long!), we each wrote our love letters to each other about why we had decided to get married and how we felt about the other person.  The idea is that you put all those things in the box at the ceremony, and then you nail the box shut.  We had our officiant explain the whole thing–that basically, we will keep the box somewhere we can see it, reminding us of our wedding day and the vows we made, and the love we felt.  And if ever our marriage is in trouble–real trouble–we will get the box down, open it, read the letters and drink the wine, and be reminded of why we got married in the first place and the vows we took.  We loved it because we take the marriage commitment very seriously–and to us this felt like a way to acknowledge that marriage is not always easy, and it’s sometimes very hard, but we are going to work through whatever we have to because we DO want to be together forever.  If you want more info on how we did it, you can PM me!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I just suggested the wine box ceremony to my Fiance because he’s against the unity candle/sand thing (well not against it as much as saying “that’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard” – just his opinion mind you)….and honestly, we don’t consider our wedding/marriage a uniting of two families.  Honestly, I’m pretty sure this wedding will be the only time our two families are in the same room.  So loving the way you did it @mrsmdphd

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We did a rose ceremony with two parts — we exchanged two roses with each other in the first part, and in the second part we gave the rose we held to our mothers (I gave to my Mother-In-Law, he gave to my mom).

The first part of the ceremony talked about how the rose is a symbol of love, etc. and if at any point in our marriage things begin to get rocky, we’ll remember this exchange and use a single rose as kind of an icebreaker of sorts to get things back on the right track.

In the second part, we recognized the wonderful job our parents did raising us, and gave our mothers the roses as a sort of thank you.

I liked how it felt with our outdoor, garden-esque ceremony — it seemed to fit nicely, especially since we didn’t want to do the unity candle/sand ceremony thing, and we’re not wine lovers.

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ERL501: We did a rose ceremony too, but we had our mothers bring the roses in when they were seated and they handed them to us before the rose exchange.

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was just browsing and didn’t read the whole post but there’s a cross ceremony you can do.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I was watching that “4 weddings: show and I saw sometihng I have not seen before and I thought it was so neat.

Wine!

Bride and Groom each have a bottle of wine. They then pour some into the same glass and drink. The officiant said something about how the wine was now mixed and couldn’t be seperated and was now one….just like the couple. 

I loved it! 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Oh I didn’t realize you were trying to include everyone

Another idea

When my mom was married 10years ago….the geusts stood up and everyone, including bride and groom held hands.

Then we did a hand-squeeze-pass

The minister said something about everyone thinking their thoughts of love and good wishes. I think the minster started it and then it ended with my mom and then her groom.

Funny story: my grandpa is hard of hearing and so there was a funny momenent when his sister squeezed his hand and then she was trying to tell him what to do and you heard him loudly say “What? Why am I squeezing someone’s hand!?”  We all laughed and it was such a reflection of who he is and it was such a light hearted moment. I loved it 🙂

Post # 15
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Wannabee

I’ve looked and it seems like folks want something besides a sand ceremony.  A bride came into my glass blowing studio about 6 months ago asking about a hand blown vase to hold her sand at the ceremony.  I asked about it spilling or blending when she took it home and she said “yeah, I’m just going to pour it out and keep the vase”.  Ack!   

 

She and I came up with http://www.unityinglass.com   Take a look!  She just got married on July 23rd and I recently created her sculptural piece.

 

Thoughts?

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