Post # 1
I’m planning on not having a ‘formal’ bridal party, and am trying to figure out if there’s a way to build anticipation. Neither of us have living grandparents. FI’s mom will be escorted down the aisle. My mom will be walking me down the aisle (my father is deceased). I didn’t really want a flower girl or ring bearer.
What do you think about honoring siblings? Perhaps they could be part of the processional? Would that be too strange? (I’d have the married ones escorted by their spouses and only one sister is single). Not sure what to do about their kids (8 in total, ranging from 18 to 2).
I also have 3 dear, life-long friends that would BE in my bridal party, that I’d like to honor in some way during the ceremony.
Do you think it would be odd if I had them process and then sit in the front with immediate family?
Post # 3
I think that’s a great idea. The biggest thing that would be different between being a bridesmaid or mother of the bride vs. other guest and friend is that they might not want to have all eyes on them. At least for me, I’d want to wear something extra nice if I’m walking down the aisle. So letting them know ahead of time would be key if I were to do that.
Post # 4
I am having the same problem. We are having just my sister as the maid of honor/best man-lady as the only attendant and the processional is going to be so short! I asked my other siblings and his siblings about it, but they don’t really want to be in the ceremony. So now we are looking at him walking his mother down the aisle, followed by my parents, my sister, and then me. I am hoping that it will be enough!
Post # 5
@mary-alice-me (cute handle, btw!!) – I would definitely let them know. I’ve already talked to them about wearing something distinctive and getting hair/makeup done with me (for picture taking purposes).
I’m doing things fairly non-traditional from a perspective of the wedding party, so I didn’t want guests to be super confused as to who all these random people were. I’d have it in the program, for sure – but wanted opinions if it might be too random/strange.
@rachel_leigh – I don’t think yours sounds too short. Maybe you could do some dramatic music before your grand entrance (or if it’s at a church or venue where there are doors to close, have someone close them before you enter).
Post # 6
I think it sounds fantastic but agree with the other that listing them in the program would be super helpful, such as:
We’re grateful for the love and support of our family and friends but have a special place in our hearts for the following, in order of procession:
Sarah, lifelong friend of the bride
Betty, best friend from college
etc. By The Way, we’re non-traditional, too. I’m the ONLY one processing, without being escorted even. We have no bridal party (not even Maid/Matron of Honor, BM), our moms have both passed, and, well, you know how dads are…
Another thing you can do is really time the music. Have the musicians play a 2 min segment or something so it finishes up at the same time. Then it will feel perfect, not too short!
Post # 7
We didn’t have a bridal party, but our processional was similar to what you described. We had my sisters, my grandma, and my nephew go down the aisle. Then our ceremony readers (my sister, my SIL, and my godfather) went. My husband walked down with his mom and dad, and then the music changed and I came down the aisle with my mom and dad. We didn’t do programs, but at the reception we introduced everyone who was in the processional during our welcome speech. I don’t think it will look random at all to have your friends thrown in there. People will probably just assume they are close to you, and that’s why they were included in the processional.
Post # 8
@Mrs. Spring – did your now husband go after all the siblings, family (meaning, just before you?) Or, did he go first and then watch everyone process in?
THANK YOU all forl the advice and encouragement – the idea of doing the processional this way is making me VERY excited. I’d been a little conflicted about wanting to have a wedding party and not wanting to have a wedding party – but this way, I’ll feel like I’m honoring those special friends and family and it’s a win-win-win!!! (I’m not having a Maid/Matron of Honor or anything).
Post # 9
He went after all the family and friends. My husband and his parents were the last ones to enter right before me and my parents. He was crying pretty hard by the time he started walking down the aisle, so I think it was better for him that he was almost the last to go in. 🙂