(Closed) IDEAS ON HOW TO NICELY WORD: "DO NOT PUT MY WEDDING ON FACEBOOK"?

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Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think we need to know why you’re so against it to help advise you how to word it. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can’t control what people put on Facebook.  I also think it’s rude to try to control your guests that much, especially since they’ve come to celebrate with you. 

Your options:

(1) Disable your facebook.  You can’t be tagged, and you won’t see them

(2) Do an unplugged wedding and ask your guests to not take photos (lots of threads about this recently…I personally think it’s rude, but that’s neither here nor there).

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Maybe:
Welcome! In order to perserve the intimate feel of our wedding, we ask that you refrain from posting any wedding details or pictures on social media sites.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Have you checked out the Unplugged Wedding signage on Offbeat Brides?

Wording + Signage

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Put up a nicely worded sign in a conspicuous place where guests will see it when they arrive.  Provide programs and write a nice note at the bottom of the program for the ceremony.  Provide menu cards and write a nice note at the bottom of the menu card for the reception.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Plus, people post TERRIBLE pictures on Facebook.  Out of focus, badly composed, facial expressions caught at the wrong times…I completely understand why people wouldn’t want pictures all over the place.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Set your facebook profile settings so that people can not see photos that you are tagged in. Also there’s some new setting that you have to activate and you can review everything before it goes on your timeline when people tag your name or your photo so you can restrict what appears on your timeline. 🙂

Hope that helps!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I just changed my Facebook where I have to approve of pictures and tags before they show up on my timeline.  It works great, nothing will show up unless I say it is okay. 

I did this because I have a friend that tags all of her friends at every stupid little detail of her life, and I really didn’t want a timeline of what bars I went to showing up for all to see, as it happens.  It should work well for you in this situation too.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

  

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

FWIW, we did an unplugged wedding and we still had people take pictures of us during the ceremony (yes they were extremely unflattering – bad angle, lighting, you name it). Though we were not tagged, people still saw them, so not tagging them is not an option. How did people see them? In the age of Facebook, everyone is each other’s friend on there. So while you may not have invited x, y and z, a may be a mutual contact of x, y and z so they still get to see pictures of you and know that they were not invited and what your wedding looked. This is what happened to us. We had a small wedding and many people that expected to be invited were not. We literally never posted anything about the wedding and the events leading up to it.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@lilbluebird:  Same here. We specifically made a request for people to put their cameras and phones away and it’s like no one heard the officiant. There was a guy getting in the way of the photographer the entire time.

You can change your FB setting to require approval before it’s posted to your wall.

Maybe you’ll have better luck with a smaller group but I just had to stop caring about people being in face with their phones all day and enjoy the moment!

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