(Closed) IDEAS ON HOW TO NICELY WORD: "DO NOT PUT MY WEDDING ON FACEBOOK"?

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Post # 17
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758 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t mean this to come out rude, but as a guest, if you invite me to your wedding, I’m going to feel offended if you ask me to not take any pictures. 

As a bride, I understand the importance of trying to control things so that everything goes your way on your wedding day.  Guests that are attending a destination wedding have paid a ton of money to be there to witness your special day.  To tell them that they can’t take a picture of you is kind of like a slap in the face. 

I LOVED some of the pictures that guests took of my husband and I on our wedding day.  Some of the moments that they captured were different than what had been captured by our photographer – and I loved them.

I would think of it as a positive thing that your guests are so happy for you, that they want to share this special moment with people in their circles.  It’s really a compliment.

Having your picture taken on your wedding day is part of the process.  The guests want to feel involved – so let them. 

Post # 19
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2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

My friend had a sign at her wedding that said something along the lines of

“Please don’t post pictures on social media websites until the Bride and Groom have had a chance to do so theirselves.”

And then they got to put the first photos up, a few days later. It was a free-for-all after that, and it allowed people to post pictures and stuff, but not until the bride had done so herself, so the photos didn’t come out for a few days. It was nice for her, since her guests were involved.

 

Post # 20
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488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m so glad you posted this.  I was trying to think of a nice way of specifying this because I have quite a few people that may be expecting an invite but are not getting one because our wedding is so small.  I have not talked about it on facebook as to avoid hurt feelings…

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

sorry, but as a guest, I think it was offensive that you’re telling me what to do with my time at your event?  are you worried people will just be on their phones all night instead of paying attention to you?  I don’t see the difference between your wedding being posted in real-time or the day after, other than that you might be afraid some of the attention is taken away from you because people are on their phones. 

while I agree, it’s frustrated how plugged-in people are nowadays, it’s not realistically something I think you should ask of a guest because it reeks of judgment about how they spend their time and where they “should” be focusing their attention.

Post # 24
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Helper bee

Fiance and I had a long talk about this too. We really don’t want people posting pictures on Facebook. With my sister-in-law, the moment the priest said it was ok to snap pictures, the pictures were already being uploaded onto facebook. It took away all the intimacy of the wedding. 

Plus, my thing is…there is not such thing as PRIVACY on facebook. No matter how private you set your profile to, people will always be able to see your pictures (friend of a friend of a friend…etc). We really don’t want our wedding pictures to be on facebook for the world to see. It’s like…invasion of privacy.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@MASPA:  but I don’t understand– what is different about them posting at 6pm vs. 6am the next morning?  you said you don’t care about untagging or removing the photos from your page later, so what’s so different about the pictures being uploaded on your wedding day?

@Floridian Belle: The OP said she’s fine if the photos go on Facebook, she just doesn’t want people uploading photos the day of the wedding.

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

It’s such an invasion of privacy to take pictures and put them online against the request of a person, wedding or not. This is not about controlling the free time of a person. Why does someone need a justification to not have their pictures posted on fb? Why does it feel like a personal affront to respect the wishes of someone’s privacy?

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Orssydia:  Because the OP has said that she does not care if the photos end up on Facebook, she only cares about keeping things off Facebook for a certain period of time, so I’m curious as to why she’s saying her guests can take a million pictures and put them all online but only at a certain time.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@MASPA:  well if you don’t want your wedding on any social media at all, it’s better to just say that and stick with it.  I would respect a friend’s wish for me not to post pictures at all, but I’d be miffed if she essentially said “you can post pictures later but don’t play on your phone all night.”  I think you’re coming from a better place if you just politely ask that no photos of your private wedding are posted online. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I can’t think of a way to ask for it nicely – but I understand. I wouldn’t like my ceremonly live tweeted either.

Thankfully, my church actually has a policy against photography of any kind or cell phones, so I won’t have to worry about it during the ceremony. Actually, my photographer will have to stand in one place and not move, and that will be the only camera allowed. I’m ok with that if it means I can get through my ceremony with only the people in the room experiencing it!

And I don’t mind if people live blog my reception, if they are really that lame that they need to spend their time at a party on facebook, then they can knock themselves out and do it! I don’t understand that personally, but I have noticed that there is a mentality on facebook and other social media sites where people want to be the “first” to share something. Cause THAT matters.

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If you have less than 30 guests, why can’t you address it privately with each guest before the wedding? Surely you have time in the next three months to reach out to those who are near and dear enough to be invited to your intimate wedding day.

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