Post # 1
My fiance thinks we should incorporate a Venn Diagram into our wedding ceremony as an alternative to the unity candle or sand ceremony. The idea is to show how we are two individuals that join together, thus keeping our individuality but also becoming one. The problem is how to do this? We don’t want to write on a dry erase board or chalk board during the ceremony — so how else to show this symbolism?
Creative ideas please! Thank you!
Post # 3
you could just put a diagram into the program and forego a big one at the ceremony – i’m afraid that anything you display at the ceremony will give a "lecture" feel to your wedding. you could play with the lines to fancy it up a bit, too… there are lots of different ways to show yourselves being two different people while also being a couple – for instance, a unity candle, but leaving your individual candles lit and explaining why.
another idea for the diagram (i’m not sure if you’re wanting to list your qualities or whatever in the diagram – i.e. jane: hardworking, witty, kind/both: loving, trusting, respectful/joe: studious, neat, thoughtful – but if not….) you could incorporate it into your aisle runner, maybe? paint one at the front of the runner so that all the guests see it and know what you’re talking about. and, one last idea: get an easel, mat and frame a venn diagram and place it off-center from where you’ll be standing for the ceremony. make sure it’s sort of a "formal" diagram, not just your standard math/science class model (again, you’ll want to play with the lines making them thicker or thinner in areas).
…hth and wasnt too rambly. it’s one a.m. and i’m half asleep 🙂
Post # 4
I love the thought of dry erase boards!
I really like his idea. What about a Venn diagram made of rose petals (or some other natural material) that you could stand in during the ceremony? I’ve seen people standing in circles of flowers before, so this would be sort of a cool variant. Depending on how detailed your program is, you could explain it there, although I sort of like the thought of some people noticing the symbolism without being too pedantic. Since you’re both teachers, though (I think I read that…), I’m sure you can come up with a thoughtful and meaningful way to explain it.
Post # 5
I like the pp’s idea of painting it on your aisle runner – you could even incorporate your monogram into it. I can see the diagram laying sort of diagonally, with your first initials laying over the separate circles and your new married initial over the centre.
Another idea, if you’re having an outdoor ceremony (and it won’t be too windy), is to have the diagram made out of rose petals where you’ll be standing. Then you can write it into the text of your ceremony as a personal ritual, e.g., ‘You stand in separate circles, representing the lives you have built as individuals. Please step into the intersection of the circles to symbolise your joining together as one’. I think that would be kind of cute, and it’s venn diagram-esque but not explicitly so. HTH!
Post # 6
I like the monogram idea! But also, you could do it with colored lights. I don’t know if you’d go so far as to have professional lighting people with adjustable spots, but it could be as low-fi as the two of you (or the best man and MoH) pointing flashlights with colored gels up at the ceiling. That has the added benefit of being movable, so the circles could start totally separate and then be joined.
Post # 7
If your ceremony isn’t in the most picture perfect place, or if there is some area you wouldn’t mind obscuring, you could use some sort of fabric backdrop, maybe even with lighting.
If you or someone close is good at sewing there is a multitude of beautiful fabric designs you could use, from collage like (you can get pictures made into fabric pieces) to very neat and tidy lines…
If you don’t want to go for a blanket/sheet kind of hanging, you could do a series of smaller hanging fabric pieces that all tie together with string and such, kinda spiderweb like but in the venn diagram shapes…it would probably look really cool swinging in the breeze…
You could even go the felt board route – have the pieces pre-made and then just smack them on the felt board (its kinda like velcro) that way its not a lecture board, but its a board none the less. and FYI, felt boards dont have the be the green kind you see in kindergarden classrooms, they can be made in all colors.
Post # 8
This wouldn’t work for the ceremony but you could carry it over to the guest book by making a large cork board of some sort with the two overlapping circles and leaving out squares of paper for people to write on and place where they see fit in the diagram. A friend could write a funny anecdote about you and put it in your part of the circle, another could write about when they first met your fiance and put it in the middle, marriage advice could go in the middle, unless it is "always put the seat down" in which case it would go in his side etc.
I really like the monogram idea as well and the rose petals too. I think it would be so nice for the officiant to have you each standing in your own parts and then at some point have you step together into the center piece to signify your union!
Post # 9
What great ideas! Exmuse — I really like the wording you came up with — do I have permission to steal it? 🙂
Our Reverend is also a teacher and he is doing a "lecture" on the history of love. Ourprograms will read "Love and Marriage 101" on the front.
I really like the runner idea. How do I go about painting on the runner? I would want to do this myself as I am on a budget.
I am still open to other ideas…
Post # 10
I’m flattered you like the wording, please feel free to use it if you want to 🙂
Your programs sound really cute – in that case an explanation of the diagram would also fit right in there as well. It sounds like you guys are really incorporating your profession into the wedding in great ways 🙂
Here is a blog entry from a Knottie with great instructions on how to paint an aisle runner: