Post # 1
Now, while I realize you can’t change a man….. I would LOVE any suggestions with ideas on ways to get Darling Husband to like Valentine’s Day.
He loathes it with a PASSION. He will acknowledge it – meaning, our Valentine’s Day will usually consist of him cooking me a nice dinner. The last couple years, we’ve spent it with friends who were visiting from out of town (over President’s weekend).
This is our first ‘married’ Valentine’s Day. And, while we’ve talked about it and I don’t expect him to change – I would like to figure out ways for him to be less ANTI-Valentine’s Day. Meaning – see it as a nice day that could be enjoyable.
His main argument is: why have one day where you show your love – every day should be like valentine’s day. If you want to buy a present for each other or send flowers to each other – it should happen on any day – and not just this one day that’s dictated by the calendar and a ‘holiday’.
My argument is: yeah, I agree – but it’s still nice to do on Valentine’s 🙂
While I understand his point – I still like celebrating and the acknowledgement of Valentine’s… .think there is any hope in me getting him to see the sweeter side of the day?
Post # 3
What about some special sexual activity that you will only do on Valentine’s day? Then he gets to look forward to that every year.
Post # 4
@R.Elliott: LMAO – love it… drawing blanks on actual ideas… but love it! 🙂
Post # 5
@oracle: J says the exact same thing about Valentine’s Day. I agree with him as well. But you’re right, we should still do something. Even if it’s silly.
Post # 6
Interestingly, I find that people who use the “love should be celebrated every day, not just one day” don’t really actually do that either. Like, it’s always the Valentine’s Day crabs who say stuff like that, but it’s not like they ACTUALLY give gifts on random days, or send flowers on Wednesday “just because” or bring home a Hallmark card for no real occasion. They just want an excuse not to like a fun day!
I love V-Day and I think it’s cute, and a fun way to break up the monotony of the dull space between Christmas and spring. AKA winter, LOL. But I don’t know how to encourage others to like it if they already don’t. 🙁
Post # 7
@ohheavenlyday: Agreed. If every day should be celebrated…WHERE are my random “Oh hey it is Wednesday” flowers? I’ve never seen them.
Post # 8
@ohheavenlyday: J does it for me, but I can see where you’re coming from.
Post # 9
I’m one of the few girls that doesn’t like V-Day, but when I find things I think Boyfriend or Best Friend will like, I pick them up for him, and he does the same for me. And I wash his underwear. 😀
However, this year we will be getting a heart-shaped pizza. I’ve always wanted one so I’m pretty excited. I know it is just pizza, but it’s in a heart. And that is cool.
I’m also in the Bee’s V-Day swap, so maybe the holiday is growing on me … and it’s an EXCELLENT excuse to eat a TON of good chocolate!
Post # 10
I love Valentines Day! My husband is the same way. He HATES it. Last year, he handed me a bear with candy and roses and said, “I didn’t know if you did the cheesy stuff, so I went with it to be safe.”
Love him. But… I’m planning something special for Vday. Hopefully it changes his mind. He’s not much of a romantic type so I’m trying to cater more to the things he enjoys.
Post # 11
And to avoid thread jacking, you could take him to see something he has wanted to see (sports game, movie) and make that a yearly tradition, followed by what @R.Elliott: said!