Post # 1
My brother and i grew up pretty rough so we were always very close. His daughter is my flower girl. my finace picked his guys. 4 of his “lifer” friends. i picked my bridesmaids, my sister, best friend, cousin and son. my brother isnt really a part of the wedding. well, hes made a couple of comments about not being in the wedding. nothing crazy or disrespectful, just enough for me to notice that its bothering him.
is there anything i can have him do in order to feel like hes a part of this wedding? my grandfather is walking me down the aisle so thats not an option. any other suggestions?
P.S. were not doing any readings either. we both want the ceremony over FAST. were not spotlight type people.
Post # 2
I would still consider a reading. We had one and ours was still like 15 minutes. It does not add more than like a minute to the ceremony.
– He can walk your mom down the aisle
– He could walk you down the aisle with your grandfather
– He could give a toast at the reception
– He could be a bridesman, sides don’t have to be even
Post # 3
You could have both your grandfather and brother walk you down the isle. Or you could ask you Fiance to add him to the weddnig party and then one girl will walk down with two gentlemen. I actually saw this at a wedding I went to a couple of weeks ago and it was really cute.
Post # 4
hikingbride : Those are all really good suggestions!
Post # 5
well i did tell him he can make a speech if hed like and he seemed to appreciate that.
i did ask my fiance if hed likeot add him but he said no. they dont have much of a relationship. they get along fine, but they dont hang out at all besides when we do family things.
these are great suggestions! thanks guys! maybe i will have him help walk me down. i wasnt sure how my grandpa would feel about it but i can ask.
we dont have parents so walking them down is out. womp womp
Post # 6
How about a special dance with him? Don’t have to make an announcement or “spotlight” it.
Post # 7
You could have him be an usher?
Post # 8
alfalfasprout10518 : my husband has too many brothers. He walked his mom down the aisle and a brother walked mine. Two drove ATVs to get the guests to the venue (probably not feasible in your case) and the last two were groomsmen. So how about he walks in a person of importance?
Post # 9
Fiancé and I both have brothers and neither are in bridal party. We decided to have each of them read a scripture (which I know you said you don’t want to do readings). However, we are also, since we don’t have best man or maid of honor, having our brothers hold and give us the rings. It’s something small yet important and special. They’re also both doing a toast at the reception.
Post # 10
I love the idea of both your grandfather and brother walking you down the aisle! That is so sweet.
I also like the speech idea, if he is ok with public speaking that could be really nice.
Post # 11
I had a similar situation with my brother and ended up asking him to be our emcee for our reception. He was really excited about it. Not sure if that’s an option for you?
Post # 12
Why can’t your brother be on your side? Sides don’t need to be even, nor do they need to be segregated by genitalia. If you are that close, he should be on your side.
Post # 13
alfalfasprout10518 : Why can’t you have 5 people on your side? That would be the easiest and since you say you’re very close, seems most logical.
Post # 14
annabananabee : Daisy_Mae : well he doesn’t make a lot of money so I’m already paying for his daughters wedding gear plus the hotel for them. He owns a suit already (that doesn’t match the suits the rest of the party is wearing), I just can’t afford to get him another suit on top of what I’m already doing
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
I would have him do a reading