Post # 1
I’m not a fan of lcinking the glasses to have us kiss. It’s too easy for the guests and, if you ask me, just gets annoying. I’ve been to several weddings where the bride and groom barely got to eat cause they had to stop so many times.
I’d like something that takes a litle more effort on the guests’ part, but nothing too over the top.
We’re getting married at a golf course, so I was thinking of setting up a mini-golf area and you have to come up and actually try a shot to get us to kiss. I’ve seen this done at other weddings and almost no one participated, so I’m a little unsure.
What are you doing?
Post # 3
You know, surprisingly, no one clinked their glasses at our wedding. My husband and I were amazed!
I think your idea sounds adorable and so fun!
Post # 4
I went to a wedding once where they kissed the first time glasses were clinked. Then every other time glasses were clinked, they drew a guest’s name out of the basket and made them kiss their date. It was a cute idea and def cut down on the clinking glasses!
I personally didn’t mind it. Darling Husband and I only had to kiss about 3 times and I loved it!
Post # 5
My sister had little bells placed on the tables which is what we used.
Post # 6
My cousin and his wife (and all of their friends and most of their families) are big hunters/fishers, so at their wedding, they had guests do some sort of animal call to get them to kiss. I thought it was so cute, very “them”, and hilarious 🙂
Post # 7
i don’t know about the taking a golf shot thing. are you going to be standing there all night? is there an allotted time for this, like bouquet throwing or cake cutting? i like the idea in the story @PinkMagnolia mentioned, if you feel like it’s something you want to highlight
Post # 8
I am not a fan of the clinking glasses and thankfully it was kept to a minimum at our wedding. I don’t have any suggestions for alternatives but I will say that you should be prepared to have it done a few times at your wedding thanks to tradition.
Post # 9
@PinkMagnolia: I really like this idea – wedding is coming up and I think I’ll do this! Clinking the glasses really drives me crazy even as a guest!
Post # 10
We had something like the mini golf thing. In front of the head table, we had a sign set up that said “score a kiss”, and had a small notch cut out of the bottom. We had a mini hockey stick and a road hockey ball. People had to score a goal. It was so much fun! Our guests loved it!
We did it in 3 sessions: 1- right as dinner was being served, 2- right after speaches 3- before 1st dance.
When we weren’t using it for the kissing game, it gave the kids something to keep them entertained.
Post # 11
You don’t have to kiss whenever people clink their glasses. Do it once or twice to make people feel happy, then stop indulging them. When it’s not fun any more, they’ll stop.
Personally I’d not want any alternative sound or ritual to make us kiss. Makes me feel like a trained pony.
Post # 12
In my 50+ Years, I’ve been to countless Weddings. The clinking glasses tradition has certainly been the norm in my lifetime.
I have seen other things attempted… such as a Guest having to get up and sing a song… but really they never seem to work out as well.
Sure the B&G get “a breather” but some of the spirit of the moment is lost
It does suck if you are the B&G and can’t seem to get a couple of minutes to string together to eat your meal (but really, that is part of the point of the tradition)
I have seen something similar done to what @PinkMagnolia: mentioned, and it was HIGHLY successful and entertaining at the same time…
The Wedding Party (B&G and Attendants) had worked out beforehand that they’d take turns kissing folks at the Wedding (think this started around the 3rd or 4th clinking session… afterall you can’t cheat your Guests entirely, you do have to give them a bit of what they came for !!)
Anyhow, the Guests Kissing was great fun… and it went something like this…
The MOH got up and kissed her Date… next time the Best Man his… it got to be great fun, because the Bride would get up and go kiss her Mom & Dad on the cheek… and sometimes the Head Table would point out to the other Guests to pick someone (so the Bride points at Gramma, and she goes and kisses one of her grandkids) etc.
Occasionally someone would do something really outrageous (just because)… so Grampa might kiss Gramma, and give her squeeze (or grab her bum). OR two unmarrieds would get up and go kiss each other (ie a Bridesmaid and a Groomsman… obviously they KNEW that both were going to be there flying solo) etc.
So there was lots of yelps, and whistles and laughter thru dinner. It was a great way to keep the atmosphere electric in what otherwise can be a bit of a downtime post Wedding Ceremony
All in all it turned a familiar tradition into a real fun time for everyone.
Hope this helps,
Post # 13
@fishbone: “trained pony” hahahaha seriously, like pavlov’s dogs
Post # 14
My brother got married at a golf course and in the clubhouse where the reception was they had a little indoor putting practice mat set up on the dance floor – same idea as you, sink it for a kiss – a LOT of people got up to try it at their wedding. Maybe ask the wedding party or some friends to get the ball rolling (literally!)
Post # 15
@This Time Round: We actually had the song thing work out really well!
OP: We had our MC tell our guests that they had to sing us a part of a love song if they wanted us to kiss – lots of people (but not too many) sang us beautiful songs – it was fun for them AND us!
I’ve got 2 pictures of it in our wedding recaps, if you want to get an idea of how people took it 🙂
Post # 16
The clinking glass sound drove me insane at my friends wedding
Glad no one did it at my wedding