Post # 1
Hi bees, We’re having an intimate ceremony on the beach in Maui. We’re expecting anywhere between 5 and 15 guests to join us. I have made it clear to guests that the ceremony will be rather quick and to only consider coming if they are interested in a Hawaiian vacation. I have also told people we will not be doing a reception but may do one at home at a later date.
I’m thinking we might like to do a group excursion instead of a reception for those who choose to join us. Or perhaps a luau? If people are coming all that way it would be nice to treat them to a Hawaiian experience. Has anyone done this/been to a wedding like this? Or have ideas of what to do? Thanks so much!
Post # 2
An alternative reception is fine. No reception is not fine. You cannot invite people to bear all the expense of flying to Hawaii for your wedding and not even offer them refreshments following the ceremony. If your budget is causing the problem, elope.
A luau is a reception. There is nothing unusual about a luau following a wedding in Hawaii. Are you working with anyone in Hawaii? at the hotel or otherwise? They should be able to refer you to a caterer who could arrange a luau.
If you choose to substitute an excursion for the reception, the two of you should pick up the tab and also arrange for refreshments if the excursion happens over a normal meal time.
Post # 3
I understand what you are saying about having to do a reception. Let me clarify, we were planning to elope but people insisted on attending. The plan once people indicated they were coming was to treat them to dinner. When I say no reception I mean no formal gathering with decor/dancing etc.
We are working with an officiant who coordinates the other vendors and yes, they can refer us. However we were thinking about just going up one of the luau places that are about $120 per person and arranging to sit together. Is that strange? If we do an excursion we would pay for it and for food. I’m basically just looking for ideas on what we could do if we decide to do an excursion. Thanks for your help.
Post # 4
A luau dinner sounds cool. Would you be at least willing to cut a small wedding cake? I think that would be cute to keep it low profile.
Post # 5
that’s a great idea! If they would let us bring a cake in or let us buy a cake I’d enjoy that.
Im a bit concerned about the timing though. It seems that most luaus start around 5 and I’m not sure we would be done with our wedding/photos by then.
I had also considered biking down haleakala at sunrise and then having breakfast/lunch after. I’m not sure if all of my guests would want to be up that early though.
Any other ideas?
Post # 6
I think a Lauau would be a fantastic idea!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College
For some of your guests, just getting UP to Haleakala is going to be a challenge – especially first thing in the morning, biking down is a thing, but not really “safe.” I went last year, and my motion sickness was a huge problem, I was so glad that we went up for sunset instead of sun rise, and that we didn’t have the biking thing – I’m sure your guests could meet you in Paia for breakfast/lunch.
We attended a Luau at one of the hotels in wailea and it was nice, but more buffet style, tables sat about 10? You are sat with your party, so that’s an option. the dancers were amazing.
What would be really cool is to do a boat ceremony with snorkeling after- rent out one of those big boats, do your ceremony, and then everyone jumps in to explore the reefs.
Post # 8
Yeah, I wouldn’t go with the Haleakala idea. You need to get up very early (like 2am), and then bike down. Some people might not want to do this, or feel comfortable. It seems fun, but that road has no shoulders and you couldn’t pay me to bike down it. I’d feel so unsafe (and I’m used to biking on roads). Also, if you get a cloudy day (like we just did a couple weeks ago) it will be disappointing.
Go with the luau. It’s fun and a very “Hawai’ian” thing.
Post # 9
I went to one, and they did the luau thing. They must have gotten the tables reserved since all the guests were placed together (but we were all still part of the larger luau- it wasn’t private). But yes, we just did the luau and it was fun. We also all stayed at the same hotel so saw each other and other guests plenty.
I would say no to the biking idea.
Post # 10
Thanks bees! I think we will do a luau! Any luau suggestions?
Post # 11
A luau would work, because you’re still feeding people.
The one at the Hyatt is really terrific
Post # 12
The old Lahaina luau is really amazing. It always gets the best reviews.
Post # 13
YES! I was just going to suggest the Old Lahaina Luau! We just came back from our honeymoon in Maui and that luau was amazing! And they told you to be there by 5:30 but technically it didn’t start until like 6ish
Post # 14
Awesome! We just got back from our honeymoon there a week ago too!!
Post # 15
Old Lahaina for sure!! The Marriott if you need fire dancers. Lol