Post # 1
HI. My first post and I really need advice/opinions. Four years together and one amazing daughter later, we are getting married in March of 2010. I want to include our daughter in all aspects of the wedding from the invitations to the ceremony, etc. However, I am uncertain on how to go about doing this. I have kicked around ideas for the save the date cards which need to go out ASAP (thinking of a cute cartoon of all three of us) to the invitations where I would love to come up with a monogram that symbolizes all three of us. Some friends have said to only include our initials in the monogram and mention our daughter in the wording. Others simply say “why does it matter anyway – I mean you already have a child so what’s the big deal with a wedding?” I really want to know if anyone has advice, ideas, and your opinions on how to incorporate our daughter into the event. We have already agreed it will be a very small wedding with only our closest friends and family (roughly 50). I want it all to be very special, intimate. I have no illusions that I am not a typical bride (not just the baby as I am in my mid 30’s). But I still want traditional and non-traditional aspects in the wedding. My parents are paying for the entire wedding (yes, they are amazing role models!) but I am not a flashy person – more budget minded. Stress of planning a wedding, rearing a daughter, keeping up with my career, etc is challenging but that is simply life so we embrace the chaos! I would really appreciate the positive assistance that makes the weddingbee blog so special and helpful! THANKS! Kim
Post # 3
Hi Kimmy! Welcome to Weddingbee
What if you did something that incorporated you, FI’s and your daughter’s handprints? It could be the screened background on the STD’s and invites, and then the details could be printed over it. You could probably even incorporate that visual theme into lots of other wedding items….programs, signage, thank you cards — maybe even the cake!
I’ll do a quick web search to see if there is anything I can find that visualizes this idea….back soon!
Post # 4
OK this is the closest I could find, from cardgallery.co.uk:
Imagine though that there are three handprints, in your wedding colors perhaps; yours, baby’s and FI’s and they occupy most of the space on the card but are screened back so they don’t interfere with readability of the print on the card. That’s what I was thinking might be nice.
If you could get the handprints onto a page I’m sure a printer could modify as needed and reproduce — Kinko’s could probably help you do it if you wanted to DIY your invites.
Hope this helps!
Post # 5
Me and my fiance have a daughter also and we are getting married on December, our wedding is going to be intimate for about 60 guests (we agreed not to invite someone we wouldn´t invite to our birthdays) and we are also including traditional and not traditional, mostly the ceremony is traditional, even my dad is taking me to the altar just because I still want to give him that honor!
We are including our daughter in our e-pics, wedding website and in the about us insert on the invitations with a pretty B&W picture of the three of us, she is also going to be our flower girl and my fiance will pick her up in his arms at the end of the ceremony and she will go down the aisle with us, we also plan to include her some how on our first dance or in the second. We are going for a balanced way to include her, but still have our moment just the two of us.
It has been the best experience ever, even though she is only 2 1/2 years old, she picked out her own flower girl dress and is really excited about trowing the flowers, she practices every time she hears a violin.
I wish you the best at your wedding, like us you guys could choose not to get married but it is great that you are!
Post # 6
Hi Loreinne! Wow, that is a beautiful idea – so much so that I was momentarily taken back to my daughter’s tiny handprints we have hanging on the wall of her nursery. I think that is marvelous and so unique! I get your vision. THough I would like a DIY invite, I know that it will be otherwise due to the fact that i am just not crafty enough for something like the footprints or another graphic design involving the invites. And yes you are right that something like that could be used throughout the wedding as kind of our “branding.” Oh you were so sweet to surf the web like that too! Can I borrow your creativity maybe for the next six months! 🙂 Your post is exactly why I have turned to this site for all my planning! Kind members, creative ideas, and oh so helpful! Thanks_Kim
Post # 7
HI Daniela. It is SO nice to hear from someone that is also planning a wedding with their child! Oh it has been hard finding posts or info on this. You said exactly what I was trying to convey but didnt quite find the words – a balanced way to include our amazing child while still keeping a moment for us a couple. I love your ideas as it seems you have put so much time, thought, and love into your planning. And I commend you because I already see how challenging it is balancing wedding planning, family and work life as well as (for us) planning her first birthday party which is so important and equally as special as our wedding.
And I am sure your little girl is going to be the highlight of the wedding and it is so precious that she is so excited about all the fun things she will be able to do in it as well. Arent children just the joy of the world!?! We were surprised when we found out that we would be having a child before marriage but oh what a thrilling ride it has been. Ultimately, all things work out in the end and I am proud to be a mother walking down the isle.
Thank you again so much for your post and I wish you and your family all the best!