(Closed) idiot friends and how to deal

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Are these guys your non-RSVPers? Maybe just pray they don’t show? 😉 Okay, that was not very helpful.

Do you have a wedding coordinator who will be staying through the party? You could ask him/her to keep an eye on them after dinner (once his/her other responsibilities are a little lighter) and make sure they don’t break anything. It seems that if you ask a mutual friend, the mutual friend might not be able to relax and have a good time. The man-children might also not see the mutual friend as an authority figure so might brush them off. Maybe a coordinator (or an older uncle or something) would seem more authoritative (?)

For your sake, I hope they have fun but behave. You can always toss them into Long Island Sound 😉

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i definitely think if someone is so drunk they can’t walk, they should be cut off.  that’s a matter of safety- not rudeness.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

my hubs has SEVERAL “man-child” friends.  these were the guys that 1) didnt RSVP 2) showed up with extra people that we did not know and were not invited 3) got super wasted 4) changed out of their “cocktail attire” and into tshirts and baseball caps about 30 minutes into the reception and 4)basically made huge asses of themselves.

what can you do?  nothing.  just have another cocktail youself.  i was complete unaware of all the shenanigans until the nexy day.  the didnt injure themselve or others, so no harm was done (except to their reputations that is). however, the post wedding stories and pictures about these guys made for great recaps.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I feel like you are putting yourself in a tough position.  You don’t want your stuff to get broken/costing you money (which you seem to think will happen if he gets completely trashed)….yet you don’t want to cut him off at the bar.  You could assign a friend to watch over him, but to me that’s the same as cutting him off….

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

oh my god @ eating the sunflowers lol. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Our liquor laws might be stricter in Canada, but all bartenders have to take a course on over-serving, and would probably cut somebody off if they noticed them getting rowdy/highly intoxicated.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Open Bar just means they don’t have to pay for their drinks.  It does not mean the bartenders can’t stop someone from self-inducing alcohol poisoning. I am guessing they might even be liable for that kind of thing.

I’m sure your bartender service/venue will cut them off if they get too drunk/obnoxious without you having to tell them.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Not to change the subject, but I was ‘cut off’ at a wedding once, although it was a total joke. After my 5th vodka soda I was sober as a church mouse and realized they were totally watering down teh drinks. So I decided to order a bottled beer at the bar, at which point the bartender said Darling Husband and I should ‘take it easy’. Um, hello – it’s 10:00pm and I’ve been drinking since 6:00 without so much as the slightest buzz. I think they were just mad we were finally costing them money instead of just drinking the tapwater they were labeling as vodka.

Honestly i didn’t ask to have anyone cut off at my wedding, but the caterer was so amazing, he asked us about everything. Of course, my SIL immediately brought her 2 year old daugter to sit at the head table even though I intentionally sat her elsewhere (grrr) and he rushed over to ask if he wanted us to move her. It was nice, but we decliend. Later on in the night people were getting wasted at the after party and again we were asked if we wanted to cut them off. We declined since honestly if you can’t get drunk at a wedding taking place in a hotel where you’re spending teh night, when can you?? We weren’t bothered by it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Kittyachi: I think they hold venues/bartenders to more liability.  The venue can be held responsible if someone over drinks to the point that they are seriously sick, and there’s also some stuff going on in the courts that the venue/pub/bar/restaurant can be held responsible if someone drinks at their establishment and then causes an accident by drunk driving.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i think you should let them be wild and fun, and if they cross any lines that are completely unacceptable, they get kicked out and told to go home. simple as that. eating flowers is one thing, destroying stuff is another.

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