Post # 1
I’m trying to finish up my registry and I’m wondering how to know when I’m done. 🙂
I love numbers, so I was doing some number crunching. I’ve heard that the 2 gifts/guest is just a rule the stores give you to make you shop more. So I thought maybe 1 gift/houshold would be more appropriate.
So I now have the gift count up to that number. However I just added the dollar amount of our registry and it works out to like $36/household.
That’s probably a signal that I need to give people more options, huh?
Are there any other brides that love crunching numbers out there? What did you do to make sure your registry was well rounded with gifts at all price points? What rules of thumb did you use?
Post # 3
A good rule is to only register for the stuff you want or need regardless of how many things that comes to…. not to register for stuff just so people can buy it.
Post # 4
lol – But I *want* the entire store! 🙂
I feel guilty putting too much stuff on there. That’s why I’m looking for advice on how much is enough I guess. I only want to put on what’s “enough” and not look greedy or anything.
Post # 5
We put on ours everything that I would be willing to go and purchase had we not spent all the money on the wedding. In fact I’ve almost completed it – just a few serving pieces left from our china.
I just made sure that no matter what people bought, I wouldn’t be disappointed if they didn’t get something else on the registry. So – don’t add stuff just to add it, but put on there everything you really need, then everything you really want and would get the rest of if you only got half.
Post # 7
I did about 1.5 gifts per household for my registry, but also only put on what we needed. I didn’t want gifts that I couldn’t use. My price range was from $2 to $200, and the average was $25. For my family, keeping the dollar value low was a good idea, as most are blue collar and cant afford extravegant gifts.
Post # 9
Most of the stuff on your registry will be bought for your shower. That’s even before the wedding. So the one gift per household doesn’t really work and that’s why stores suggest 2 gifts per guest (since there are two events to buy gifts for).
Unless you’re not having a shower?
Post # 10
We’re registered for about half as many gifts as as we anticipate guests, but we don’t need much and would be very happy if people choose to gift us cash instead. And that count includes things like washclothes (counted individually).
Here were my considerations on the registry:
– Pick places that are easy for most of our guests to shop at (we did BBB & Amazon).
– Only register for things we really want (be it a new item or an upgrade of an item we have).
– Try to keep a good balance of price ranges on the registry. This will get harder as things start to get purchased but if I need to, I’ll add some things to the BBB registry at low price points that we could return for credit towards larger items. While I completely understand why it happens, I’d hate for my guests to look at the registry and only see high-priced items left.
As a guest, I don’t mind a large registry. I think it’s nice to have a lot to choose from. When I see a small registry (like mine), I assume they probably want cash 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
I know you read a lot about the perfect number of gifts, and the dollar value of the gifts, but honestly, if you get a ton of stuff that you didn’t really want but felt like you should add to your registry just to “fill it up,” you will probably regret it. We received a couple gifts that we didn’t really need, and they’re just picking up dust – but I feel so badly about giving them away, because they’re wedding gifts! Register for what you really need/want, and don’t worry about numbers. If everything on your registry is purchased, your guests will probably give you cash or gift cards. Some guests will probably do that anyways – don’t expect every single guest/couple/family to buy you a gift.
As far as what’s “enough” – do you do a lot of cooking? Or a lot of entertaining? If you don’t cook much now, you probably won’t be a gourmet chef in the future, so you can stick to simple kitchen items. But if you do cook a lot, then register for things that will make it easier for you in the kitchen! For example, we’ve never had a food processor or blender, and there’s been recipes I couldn’t make without one of the two – so I registered for both, and I use them all the time now. We don’t do a lot of entertaining (at least nothing fancy), so I didn’t register for much fancy servingware and I skipped china. Also, have you registered for anything that your Fiance wants, like maybe tools or something like that?
Post # 12
And it doesn’t matter that it averages out to $36/pp … some guests will give cash, some will give you off-registry gifts … registry items are ultimately only suggestions. PPs have given good advice about only registering for things you want and will use (and have storage space for in your home!), regardless of how many guests you have.
Post # 13
*Most* of the major stores, ie: Macy’s BBB, etc, will give you a 20% discount on whatever you registered for but did not receive.
That being said, I think you should register for the things you want/need and not worry about who will get you what. Whatever you don’t get, you can always buy yourself with your discount. There are also those family member who always seem to hate going off the registery and try and be different, by getting you something random. Remember to take that into account.
Post # 14
You do need more than one gift per household. If you don’t, a lot of people can’t choose, they just have to get whatever is left.
Post # 15
@bebero: Yea, I’m thinking what I have now is not quite enough.
Thanks for all the advice!