(Closed) If 2 gifts/guest is a bad rule, what's a good rule?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

A good rule is to only register for the stuff you want or need regardless of how many things that comes to…. not to register for stuff just so people can buy it.

Post # 5
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We put on ours everything that I would be willing to go and purchase had we not spent all the money on the wedding.  In fact I’ve almost completed it – just a few serving pieces left from our china.

I just made sure that no matter what people bought, I wouldn’t be disappointed if they didn’t get something else on the registry.  So – don’t add stuff just to add it, but put on there everything you really need, then everything you really want and would get the rest of if you only got half. 

Post # 7
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I did about 1.5 gifts per household for my registry, but also only put on what we needed.  I didn’t want gifts that I couldn’t use.  My price range was from $2 to $200, and the average was $25.  For my family, keeping the dollar value low was a good idea, as most are blue collar and cant afford extravegant gifts.

Post # 9
3941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Most of the stuff on your registry will be bought for your shower.  That’s even before the wedding.  So the one gift per household doesn’t really work and that’s why stores suggest 2 gifts per guest (since there are two events to buy gifts for).

Unless you’re not having a shower?

Post # 10
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We’re registered for about half as many gifts as as we anticipate guests, but we don’t need much and would be very happy if people choose to gift us cash instead. And that count includes things like washclothes (counted individually).

Here were my considerations on the registry:

– Pick places that are easy for most of our guests to shop at (we did BBB & Amazon).

– Only register for things we really want (be it a new item or an upgrade of an item we have).

– Try to keep a good balance of price ranges on the registry. This will get harder as things start to get purchased but if I need to, I’ll add some things to the BBB registry at low price points that we could return for credit towards larger items. While I completely understand why it happens, I’d hate for my guests to look at the registry and only see high-priced items left.

As a guest, I don’t mind a large registry. I think it’s nice to have a lot to choose from. When I see a small registry (like mine), I assume they probably want cash πŸ™‚

Post # 11
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

I know you read a lot about the perfect number of gifts, and the dollar value of the gifts, but honestly, if you get a ton of stuff that you didn’t really want but felt like you should add to your registry just to “fill it up,” you will probably regret it. We received a couple gifts that we didn’t really need, and they’re just picking up dust – but I feel so badly about giving them away, because they’re wedding gifts! Register for what you really need/want, and don’t worry about numbers. If everything on your registry is purchased, your guests will probably give you cash or gift cards. Some guests will probably do that anyways – don’t expect every single guest/couple/family to buy you a gift.

As far as what’s “enough” – do you do a lot of cooking? Or a lot of entertaining? If you don’t cook much now, you probably won’t be a gourmet chef in the future, so you can stick to simple kitchen items. But if you do cook a lot, then register for things that will make it easier for you in the kitchen! For example, we’ve never had a food processor or blender, and there’s been recipes I couldn’t make without one of the two – so I registered for both, and I use them all the time now. We don’t do a lot of entertaining (at least nothing fancy), so I didn’t register for much fancy servingware and I skipped china. Also, have you registered for anything that your Fiance wants, like maybe tools or something like that?  

Post # 12
3697 posts
Sugar bee

And it doesn’t matter that it averages out to $36/pp … some guests will give cash, some will give you off-registry gifts … registry items are ultimately only suggestions. PPs have given good advice about only registering for things you want and will use (and have storage space for in your home!), regardless of how many guests you have.

Post # 13
1341 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

*Most* of the major stores, ie: Macy’s BBB, etc, will give you a 20% discount on whatever you registered for but did not receive.


That being said, I think you should register for the things you want/need and not worry about who will get you what. Whatever you don’t get, you can always buy yourself with your discount. There are also those family member who always seem to hate going off the registery and try and be different, by getting you something random. Remember to take that into account.

Post # 14
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You do need more than one gift per household. If you don’t, a lot of people can’t choose, they just have to get whatever is left.

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